Post # 1
Hi, this is my first post here so forgive me if this has been posted before. I recently went dress shopping for a Maggie Sottero dress. When I got to the bridal store they didn’t have any of the exact dresses I had found online, but they had many I hadn’t even had on my list of favorites. Long story short I bought the first dress I tried on and absolutely loved it. I didn’t even know the name of it until we were leaving the store and I just happend to ask the girl who had helped me. Turns out the dress was the Adorae…big surprise right ? 🙂 Also I had NO idea this dress was so popular. I hadn’t seen it on any of the web sites and I hadn’t see any posts on here about it either (not until after I bought it). I really didn’t even know it existed.I am definitely ok with it being so popular and I know there have been quite a few posts about it. A few days ago I was thinking about my dress and upcoming wedding and started thinking back to the many weddings I have been to over the years. I just happend to get on Fbook and look at some of my friend’s wedding pictures- checking out their dresses and decorations etc. I was seriously shocked to see one of my good friends from college had the same dress! I barely remembered what her dress looked like and her wedding was in December 2011. She moved away shortly after college and I made a trip to her wedding but I wasn’t in her wedding so I honestly barely remember it. So, I definitely don’t want to get another dress and I am not going to BUT should I tell anyone I just happened to notice? We have one mutual friend who will be coming to my wedding as well but other than that no one else. I’m not even sure if my friend will be coming to my wedding as she lives quite a ways away and we haven’t kept in touch that well. We are still friends and all but we just live far apart. I am kind of embarassed that I bought the same dress as her. I know she will see pictures from my wedding even if she doesn’t come to my wedding so she is going to realize it. She definitely wouldn’t be mad or mean about it, she’s not that type. Ahh.. why does it even matter? I know it doesn’t. I just don’t know if I should make it known that I realized it after the fact? Should I tell my Fiance? He hasn’t even met this friend. Should I tell my friend? I think the main reason I am kind of weirded out is because I seriously had NO idea and also my friend is super tall, blonde, barbie-ish and I am short, brown hair and pretty plain? I am also wondering if when she does notice she will be like…’what the heck I had that dress 3 years ago’… Thanks for reading 🙂
Post # 3
@Jazzyjazz33: First of all, I totally understand your being worried about it because I overthink things and would be semi-embarrassed too… but honestly, it’s a popular dress from a popular designer and it’s totally plausible that this happening is a complete accident .I would facebook her and say “omg guess what? i bought my wedding dress the other day after trying a whole bunch on- I didn’t even know the name! And then I realized it’s the same one you wore! Except I’m going to wear it with (enter different accessory here). How funny is that? I guess we have the same taste!”
Lighthearted, no big deal. You didn’t do anything wrong and I would only think it’s a “big deal” if you had ALL the same friends or if you were getting married in the same couple months.
I looked up the dress- so pretty!
Post # 4
I’m sure she will notice no matter what because you don’t forget your own wedding dress, but I don’t think anyone else will take notice to it, so I wouldn’t worry about bringing it up to anyone else. I definitely can’t remember every detail of someone’s dress whose wedding I went to three years ago because I don’t really care enough to remember it TBH. If she says anything I would just be like, “I thought they were similar, but didn’t realize until after I bought it!” Honestly, I’d be happy if my wedding dress were still in style a few years later! 🙂
Post # 5
@Jazzyjazz33: i wouldn’t be too concerned about buying the same dress. the only person that will notice will be the friend that wore it 3 years ago and the dress will look totally different on both of you. besides, imitation is the best form of flattery.
Post # 6
Popular dresses are popular for a reason. When I was looking for dresses, the consultants kept trying to put me in a dress that a friend wore for her wedding-that same summer, and I was MOH. I wouldn’t try it on because obviously I knew the dress and she’s a BM in my wedding. But none-the-less, popular styles get worn a lot-it’s nbd and I wouldn’t mention it.
Post # 7
You could always wait until she, or someone else, says something, if they do…and then be like “omg are you serious? That’s so funny! I had no idea!”
Post # 8
@Jazzyjazz33: I was worried you had bought the same dress as a close friend or relative who’s wedding was coming up. I feel that 1) if someone’s wedding has already happened and 2) the dress isn’t custom and you’re actively copying it then they won’t care. If anything it is confirmation that she had a cute dress that is still stylish.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone. The more I think about it, I am kind of sad that it is the same dress she had. I don’t really CARE because my FI will have no idea and hasn’t met her of course, but I guess if I had known it was her exact dress maybe I would have kept looking? Idk… oh well! I still love the dress just feel slightly less excited about it even if that’s silly.