(Closed) I called him out on something and he is lying!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

… he was obviously very embarassed. I would be too.

that said now, do you have any REASON to believe he took them to do something with them? Such as…. send them to other women or men?

btw: I’m not buying it for 1 second you do it “because you’re bored” or that “it isn’t a trust issue”

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

So you know he was lying. Either he was doing it for sh**s and giggles or…. you know what Im going to say next. Now you need to decide what you’re going to do.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Drop him.  He’s lying and covering up something.  Even if he’s not cheating, you don’t take naked pictures for no reason.  You take them to send them to someone else.  You have trust issues you need to resolve on your own and he shouldn’t be trusted anyway.  I have a coworker who was getting naked pictures from an engaged man.  I’m sure his FI never knew it was going on.  She was in a relationship, so she never let it get any further.  Would he have cheated?  I’m sure, if the opportunity arose.  Even if he wouldn’t have, why is he talking to other girls that way anyway – it’s not appropriate.  You don’t put yourself in a position to cheat.  Sorry, but I think you need to do 2 things – drop him and figure out your trust issues. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The first thing that popped into my mind is that I doubt anyone takes naked pictures of themself just for fun.  Sorry, but this just wouldnt sit right with me.  I’d probably dig deeper into phone records to see if/where it was sent to.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

well, although you already know snooping is wrong, that is a huge trust issue. No one snoops thru someone else’s phone because they are “bored.” And it is wrong of him to take naked pics of himself if they aren’t being sent to you. This is a big trust issue that can protentially break your relationship as time goes by. Its only going to get worse if you don’t trust. Especially your bf. Of course you know you shouldn’t have snoop, but you found something that makes you question his actions. And now I think you need to get that resolved and work on your trust issues.  

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

You got trust issues and he’s a liar, BAD COMBINATION

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So you look through his phone, because you are bored? But you completely trust him?

Would you like to buy this bridge I’m selling too?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nona99:  +1 Agree! 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@pinkshoes:  Agreed. It think my FI took a picture of himself once and then ASKED me to look at a picture on his phone. I freaked out and he laughed about it.  Thats the only time i can think of it being for a laugh. 

Sorry. Dig deeper and find something concrete. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

While embarassing for him for sure, it is sketchy and a bit alarming.

I’m not sure what your living situation is or how intertwined your lives are, but I would work on distancing yourself a bit until you can get a  more concrete grip on what is going on!

I’m sorry this is happening to you , take care of yourself hun!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@vmec:  +1 on the embarassment.

I disagree with the PPs who are instantly trying to turn this into an issue of him possibly cheating, which is obviously what PPs are getting at. I do some things in private to kinda inspect myself and groom that I would be horrified if DH saw me doing. You snooped for absolutely no reason, embarassed him, and now you’re putting him int he hot seat over it. I think you’re the one in the wrong here.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m really sorry that your upset, but if you go looking for trouble, you’ll usually find it…guys are weird sometimes, the naked pictures could have been for something totally innocent…strange and bizarre, but innocent.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is why this world sucks. AshleyMadison.com? The ability to easily take a naked picture of yourself and text it to someone? It’s getting harder and harder to trust because technology is making it easier and easier to cheat. That said, when you are truly in love and respect your partner, this type of lying and shady business is something you only read about on  the internet 🙁 I would think twice about this relationship, 100%

if nothing else, he would be too immature for me. Taking naked pics of yourself is something you do when you’re drunk, stoned, single, horny, etc.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I don’t really believe him taking the pictures just for fun. I would try to find out where they were sent.

Also, I don’t believe you for saying you were snooping just because you were bored.. sounds like trust issues :/

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