Post # 1
I called off my wedding, but I all ready sent STDs, so… how do I let everyone know? Do I have to call each and every person? So far, I called my mother, and that was an extremely horrible experience. EXTREMELY.
How to handle this? What to do?
I only called to tell her we changed the location and date and she went crazy.
Post # 3
CONGRATS!!! After reading one of your previous posts, I’m so relieved FOR you! I say go for the note, and the people you are especially close to you can call. And I mean YOU. The people YOU want to call, call. Otherwise, psh.
Post # 4
Honestly – call the people that are important to you and write a letter to the rest! I am sure the news will spread on it’s own as well!
I am happy that you are happy and relieved! I wish you all the best!
Post # 5
Yay for you and your FI!!! Make your wedding YOUR day!!! I agree with the above posters. Or, if you want to, you could make a nice wedding announcement to send out, with a wedding photo of the 2 of you. Have a wonderful elopement and honeymoon! You deserve it. Hugs
Post # 6
oh, she’s still getting married. I was confused. Glad you all know what she was talking about. If you are eloping before the date… just elope and then come back and say, WE DID IT. We’s married.
Post # 7
Since you haven’t sent out formal invitations yet, I wouldn’t think there’s anything wrong with just sending out a note to everyone. And like PPs said too, I think the news will spread by word of mouth too.
Post # 8
Thank you! Bees out there, and those of you who gave me advice before-
Thank you Thank you Thank you. You have no idea how much your support and advice has helped me through this.
We decided to change the date and location to something we had wanted in the first place and my mother went nuts. So, now we are pretty sure we will do completely our own thing, and only invite those that will be positive, supportive, and fun. Your advice and support has meant a lot to me. Thank you!
Post # 9
I would just send out new std’s, noting that there has been a change and here is the new info. If your guest list is shrinking… well that’s a little trickier. If that is the case, I would personally call the ones who are “un-invited” and explain that you’ve had to change venues, cutting your numbers… probably not going to be too fun no matter what, but that seems like the most up-front way to handle it. Good luck!
Post # 10
I agree with the others bees that if you are eloping before the set wedding date, I would just send notes out to everyone saying we eloped!
Post # 11
Can you be cute and mail out a “Free Day” coupon? Like… “We’ve called off the wedding, so that day you took off work? It’s all yours”
I’m sorry if that’s stupid, lol. Just my first thought.
Otherwise, I would call everyone =)
Post # 12
I would call the most important people and email everyone else, or ask your parents to pass the message along – word of mouth is good for this kind of thing. It’s not formal invites so I don’t think you need to worry too much. And yes I think an announcement of some kind after the fact would be lovely 🙂
Post # 13
We are doing something similar. Due to an unforseen circumstance, we are changing our wedding to next year. We have called all that are personally involved in the wedding and are sending letters to explain the change to the rest. We had sent out the save the dates as well.
Post # 14
I’d call those who would be coming in from OOT and incurring an expense first. Then call close relatives. Send out announcement to others!
Have a blast! We’re having a super duper intimate island wedding now and then a reception when we return!
Post # 15
I went through this a few months ago. We were scheduled to be married May 1st and were invting about 0. We called it off. We tried to call everyone but it became too difficult, so we started sending notes to the others. NOw we are getting married just the too of us – running off to Mexico. We will send announcements about 2 weeks after we get back.
Post # 16
Given your situation, I would send a note by mail. Have fun with your elopement! Revel in each other and the strength it took for you to stand up for yourself! Proud of you.