Post # 1
A few months ago I was planning for a Sept 23rd wedding. Then one day my love came to me and told me to cancel everything, that he wanted to postpone the wedding. I was crushed, but I understood. He had recently lost his job and so all the money that went into the wedding was coming out of my pocket and he felt less of a man for having that be the case. Well I lost $6k on the deal–not angry about it, just aware of it and the fact that he had time to cancel much before I had put so much in. I had already ordered my dress and it is now hanging in my spare bedroom. When we called things off everyone thought we’d broken up. We didnt, we’re more together today than we were in June. But he’s still not where he wants or needs to be financially, therefore, we havent set another date. This has been a rough month for me, knowing that date is coming up, having had to scratch it out on the calendar, having to work a contract on that weekend when Id much rather be doing something else. I know it hurts him to see me sad, but I cant pretend that Im completely ok. I know its a bit silly, as he said after all, we’re still together, we are still getting married and that is what matters. I just cant explain it.
Just needed to get that out.
Post # 3
I liked that you said you are more together now then in June… I see that it has made you stronger, and although it hurts and is tough explaining to others your day will come and it will be beautiful and amazing and there will be no financial concern like this hanging over the beginning of your marriage. I think it was a good decision, one that you may have regretted not doing so good on you for being strong about the decision. Keep your head up, you still havbe a loving and caring man and once you set a new date and get things back on track you will feel great 🙂
Post # 4
You have such a great attitude!! Glad you guys are happy and moving forward!
Post # 5
@Meeshmallow Agreed! + 1
Totally understand the need to get that off your chest at a place like the Bee. Hugs, I can imagine how you feel with the date looming, take comfort in knowing that it will happen when the time is right and its gonna be awesome!
Post # 6
So he made you lose 6K because he didn’t want you paying for it yourself? I am sorry- but 6K isn’t anything to sneeze at in addition to losing the date you were looking forward to… could another solution have not been reached?
I don’t mean to say that without sympathy as I know this is hard on you (and him) but I just would have a hard time justifying losing 6K when him losing a job could happen when you are married. If you didn’t have the money to pay for it, then I could completely understand. But if you were able to pick up the load until he gets back on his feet, isn’t that the definition of what marriage is?