Post # 1
I wanted a semi destination or small wedding with just family but fi wanted a “big” wedding. Ok, so that’s what we went along with. We are building a house which is stressful but add on top of that I found out the wedding dress I bought in January won’t be in until weeks before the wedding! I work full time and all the wedding chores I do myself. .. then on top of it we would be moving and I would be at fittings so close to the wedding!! And I can’t take time off of work. Talk about super stressful!!
The icing on the cake was that my bridesmaids couldn’t be bothered to order their $150 dresses (I haven’t asked them to do or pay for anything else) and the groomsmen couldn’t pick out and buy suits. I didn’t want a bridal party but of course fi did and the one and only thing we need them to do, they won’t! then last week a bridesmaid tells me the date of her baby shower (second baby) and it’s the day of my bridal shower I already told her about. Really? Also, fi wanted this wedding so bad and some of his friends won’t even respond to us and give us their address! !
So, I cancelled the wedding last week. I’m so hurt by some people and when we decide to get married we are just going to go away to the beach or vegas. My mom was totally against that but now that she sees how unreliable people are she’s happy to have a small destination wedding. Hell, from the beginning ask i cared About was the dress! And fi of course. What a waste of money but in the end, that can all be made up.
Post # 3
I think this is a good thing. Sounds like you managed to get out of it just in time! Sorry about your unrealiable friends.. that sucks.
I think you will enjoy this smaller wedding much more!
Post # 4
Oh my goodness I am so sorry!
I cannot believe your bridesmaids did that to you, especially the one with the baby shower. I cannot imagine someone doing that to me and not expecting me to be upset with them. What friend does that?
I know sometimes people dont have much money to buy the bridesmaids dress, but if it is the case they should have at least talked to you about it instead of just kinda blowing it off. Same goes for the groomsmen… “Cant be bothered to pick out suites”.. REALLY?
And people not giving you an address to even mail invitations to them? Anyone who didn’t give me someplace to send them an invitation (unless I chose to hand it to them in person) would be off the guest list after asking the 3rd time with no answer.
I think you are right to do a small getaway wedding with only the few people you know you can depend on. Just another reason I will never, ever even try to have a large wedding.
Good luck and I hope things go well for you here on out.
Post # 5
@ILoveMyKorat: That’s got to be a relief! Now you get to actually enjoy your wedding day 🙂
Post # 6
@ILoveMyKorat: Wow, I’d be stressed and unhappy too, that’s crazy! Sounds like you made a good decision. When you do get married and you do it the way you want to, you’ll just look back at all this and be grateful you canceled it all.
Post # 7
Yeah, it’s so stressful and infuriating! Somehow fi finds nothing wrong with all of this! His friends have been known to rsvp for them and a guest and not even show up! And his last friends wedding I went to. … people wore swim suits and tshirts! Really?? The ppl who wouldn’t give us their address would be the first people to be mad they didn’t get an invite! Ugh! Vegas sounds great! !!
Post # 8
@ILoveMyKorat: We started off with a local wedding and ended up cancelling the whole thing within a week. We decided to have a weddingmoon and we couldn’t be happier with the decision. I’m sorry your friends disappointed you, but you’re right – the most important part is your FI and you will always have him. A beach wedding will be perfect and the resorts do most of the arrangements for you. I think you will be happy with the stress free option.