Post # 1
Disclaimer: Okay, so I have a really weird first post, but it’s something that I can’t ask anyone IRL.
I have had a sexual relationship with my bf for four years now. Right around the time that we moved from “other stuff” to actually having sex, I started shaving down there, and he really liked it. So, for four years I have been shaving…
1) I can’t shave that often without causing major irritation
2) I have stubble the next day (yuck)
This wasn’t an issue for the first three years, but for the last 12 months or so we have been living in the same city and spend a lot more nights together. I find myself rejecting him a lot because I don’t feel very sexy. I considered letting it grow, but I don’t feel sexy that way either; I personally feel very gross with pubic hair now. For bees that shave, how do you work it? Does your guy mind stubble?
I don’t know what to do, but it is getting to the point that he doesn’t really initiate anymore because I say “I can’t” so often. I really don’t want to have sex with stubble down there, though!
Post # 4
@smashwey: wax!! It doesn’t totally eliminate the stubble/hair problem (because your hair has to be long enough to wax) but after time, the hair starts growing in finer and more sparse. I’ve been getting brazillian waxes for over a year now and I love it! I would say the quantity of my pubic hair as decreased by at least 1/4. Sure it’s not the most awesome experience in the world, but the pain is temporary. And the a results kick ass.
Post # 5
I wax too- but make sure it’s a hard wax not the strip wax (hurts less, less irritation!)
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Change razors, or use cream.
Post # 7
@oneofthesethings: I would if I had the money, but I really don’t have 50.00 to spare to spend on that every month
Post # 8
My ex wanted me to shave and I did. It totally messed up my natural bikini line so now the radius extends into my thighs (so gross). I regret ever doing it for him because I felt so uncomfortable afterwards. Now, I just stopped caring. Unless I’m going to the beach, it’s a non-issue. Remember, the hair is there for a reason. It’s to stop bacteria from getting into areas that would cause infection. Maybe talk with BF to ask him what he would think if you went au naturale with trimming around the edge?
Post # 9
Invest in a good razor and use men’s shaving cream! I shave every single day, and trust me, your skin gets used to it. I’ve been shaving every day for two years now and I don’t get any razor burn or irritation, though I did in the beginning.
That being said, I really doubt your guy would notice a little extra hair down there, and I promise–he’d rather have sex with you, with hair, than no sex at all.
Post # 10
Waxing is totally the way to go. I go once every 4ish weeks (I live in SoCal, so bikinis all the time) and after about the first 3 times you go it takes it longer to grow back in and it isn’t “stubly”.
Post # 11
I use a trimmer, like a beard trimmer but for ladies!
I have super sensitive skin so I can’t shave with a regular razor or i get razor burn.
Post # 12
Laser…. You still shave while getting the laser treatments, but you can see where the hair doesn’t grow back. Mine isn’t completely gone, but it’s so fair/fine/sparse now that I can shave like once a week. Trust me, it’s a better investment than waxing.
Post # 13
I shave once a week, Sunday’s when I can take a nice long shower. I don’t mind stubble, but if you don’t want a full shave just keep it very trimmed and that might help alot and should not irritate your skin.
Post # 14
Yeah it’s very irritating and grows like wildfire LOL
its a lot of upkeep, but i do it every other day 🙂
i tried waxing but that is PAINNNNNN lol
So yeah, i just do it every other day 🙂
Post # 15
I’ve done both and would prefer to get waxed any day.
But my issue is I’m cheap as shit so I don’t want to spend the money to wax.
So I wax the areas that I can myself and shave the rest.
Post # 16
Trimmer all the way; I can’t use a razor or else I get HORRIBLE irritation & ingrown hair.
I use this one, and it works great. It comes with a guard and a nifty little detail trimmer. Note that I don’t use the foils, just the trimmer along the edge. This leaves me with stubble, but I’m OK with that, and so is FI. I also use the trimmer on my underarms since I have the same issue there with razor irritation.