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    dereksbride2b    10/23/09   Denver

    Well two weeks ago from today I was getting married and so excited, one week ago I was on my honeymoon soaking up the sun and having fun with my hubby!

    To be honest it was really hard for me to come back on weddingbee because I was so addicted to weddingbee while I was planning my wedding and now that all of that is over it makes me sad and somewhat jealous of all the people that have the excitement still ahead of them while planning their wedding.

    I know there is a lot of excitement in my life to come but there is no other feeling that can replace the feeling of planning your own wedding and all the enjoyment and excitement that comes along with it.  I actually enjoyed planning our wedding and I think a lot of it had to do with how supportive and helpful my then FI was during the whole planning period.

    I know that I have a lot to look forward to with us as husband and wife but hopefully I am not the only one that feels this way.

    I have been married once before and cried the day after the wedding because it was all over but I got over it pretty quickly but this time it isn't that easy.  I could cry just from writing this.

     
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    HoneyBear    March 17, 2012   Texas/ Isla Mujeres

    Start planning your 5 year anniversary vow renewal! hehe

     
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    MzThrowBac2B    December 2012   Tx

    Aww :) Well if it helps any, I can't wait to be in ur shoes! Wink

     
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    dereksbride2b    10/23/09   Denver

    Honeybear what about planning our 1 year anniversary wow renewal or would that be to psycho? LOL, HAAAAAAA.  Ya I like the 5 year vow renewal thing.

    Mzthrowbac2b Thanks for the kind words.

     
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    arizonabride    June 2, 2010   Tucson, AZ

    Congratulations on your marriage!!! Looks like you had a great time. I'm sure that post-wedding let down is normal. I remember feeling that way after my firstt. Luckily, the holidays are coming and you'll have plenty of planning to do as newlyweds for that! Hope the feeling goes away. I'd love to see pics when you get them!

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I felt that way for a bit, but then I thought of how much I could help others in my shoes with things you only think about/know once you are on the other side.  Plus, there's still so much inspiration that you could use for other parties!  I've already used to to plan an 80th birthday party for my grandma and I'm going to also use some ideas from here for a baby shower!

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    *hugs* we're all here, and now that you've graduated to MARRIED (YAY!) you know so much having gone through it. It's an excellent opportunity to help us out with things that we might not even think about! Congratulations!

     
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    dereksbride2b    10/23/09   Denver

    Arizonabride- Thanks so much, I have some pics from the wedding that friends took but I will be sure to post some professional pics! P.S. I answered your questions about Secrets.

     
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    rettak    11/17/07   Los Angeles

    lol... i got married 2 YEARS AGO, and i'm still lurking around Tongue out

     
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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    please share your wisdom with the other brides...I'm sure they'd appreciate it!

    plus, the wedding isn't over!  You could go through the photos, scrapbook it, journal about it, do other preservation tasks...I think that could be fun!

    otherwise, I've thrown myself into "nesting" and getting my body/brain ready for TTC....there's always sometime fun to do!

    maybe you could also offer to help other bees in your area, too?

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    :)

    I like the idea @cannotwait shared! Use the wedding memories and photos to scrapbook and get ideas on here :) I love to scrapbook and they make for wonderful albums and keepsakes!

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    I have to admit I've had little pangs of jealousy towards the people stillplanning as well.  It's a cycle, and I got my chance!  But I do miss it a little bit :-)

    You're not alone.  You can now stay a part of the community and share everythihg you learned with those who haven't had their wedding yet!  It's a great thing to be a part of!

     
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    pren79    10/17/09   SF Bay Area

    I suggest that you can start setting new plans for yourself, whether it's personal or job-related. I personally feel that if I had more time, I would definitely get into album making... and I get excited just thinking about it but I just got too much on my plate right now. Hope you feel better soon.

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I was married over a year ago and I still frequent Weddingbee.  Now that you're on the other side, your experience and advice is all the more valuable.

    Hit the boards and pass on all the wisdom you've gained!

     
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    pinwheelspoprocks    October 10, 2009   Los Angeles/CA

    If you spent a lot of time connecting with people planning the most fabulous day of your life (and it sounds like it was!) then of course it's hard to come back.  it's hard to skim by those Monique Lhullier bridesmaids dresses and not feel a pang of jealousy.  It's only normal to feel a little sad to not be as connected and excited about making those big day decisions. But like the the hive has said, you have knowledge and stories to share.  You have us and we have lots of decisions and planning to do/make.  I'm still trying to unpack boxes and wondering when I stop updating my registry, when people got their photos and what was the most creative thing that someone did with them.

    Pls know it's normal but come back and visit often to the entire board.  I know there were a ton of newlyweds who were so helpful to me while I was planning.

     
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    simpleandchic    November 27, 2010   Adelaide, South Australia

    I'm sure that I wuill be the same, I have already thought about how I will feel in a years time.

    Now u can concentrate on other things, decorating.....babies.....fitness and Health....maybe set a goal like 'I'm going to run a marathon in a year or I am going to make my house look like something out of H&G or I am going to satrt saving so I can have an awesome overseas vacation.

    Essentially what I am sugesting is to set yourself a new goal, objective, aim.

     

     
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    realeastcoaster    July 11, 2009   Canada

    While I was planning, I was a huge lurker on the boards, and got plenty of great ideas...now that I'm married, I want to give back to WB by posting with this new point of view. It's helping to wean me off weddings without going cold turkey.

     
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    Shelbybell    June 28, 2008   Philadelphia

    Oh Dereksbride- I hear you!!!  Don't worry - you have sooo much fun wedding stuff ahead- seeing wedding videos, picking album pictures, opening and using gifts, hanging pictures on the wall... it goes on for a quite a while.  If you're really bumming, maybe you could do a post-wedding photo shoot?  A trash the dress or just a bridal portrait, or city pictures?  And it's still tons of fun to come back on weddingbee and give advice to other brides! 

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    @dereksbride2be - Referring to your earlier post, joking about a 1 year anniversary vow renewal:  friends of ours are going to be married one year and plan to renew their vows on their 1 year anniversary...and every year after!  My husband thinks this is absurd.  I just don't know what to think...I guess, to each his own!

     
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    eryepye    March 27, 2010   Seattle, married in Portland

    You should become a wedding planner and plan, plan, plan all the time!  On a more serious note though, I've heard other brides say similar things to what you did after their weddings and I am sure I'll feel a bit of that as well.  Don't worry, you'll move past it and remember your day fondly.  There will be other life events in your life to be excited about, too!

     
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    DecemberBride    December 5, 2009  

    I'm sure I will feel the same way you do once I'm married, but I can pretty much say with total confidence that all the engaged bees are dying to be on your end of things!!! :-)

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Ah that feeling goes away. I was here every day after the wedding too. Now I just pop in every now and then!

     
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    EngagedToPanda    September 26, 2009   East Stroudsburg, getting married in Colorado

    I changed career paths, maybe a bit drastic, but I feel like if I didn't want to go back to before the wedding-planning/engagement time, I should focus on doing something other than what I was doing before ... new name, new me, new profession, and the one I now feel certain I was meant to do all along! Newho, in your case, you might be able to get away with just a new hobby, hehe :)

     

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