- 3 years ago
Last night, SO brought up engagements and marriage. Not only did he do it on his own, but in surprising detail. He started talking about how he is ready to have a family with me. “I don’t want to wait until we’re 30 before we start having kids,” he said, and we’re 26 now. He’s got a baby nephew and a young half-brother, both of whom he adores and he says he can’t wait to have that sort of relationship with a child of his own. And then he said we shouldn’t seriously think about babies until we are married, and then off we were!
Bees, he asked what city I wanted to get married in, as well as the type of venue. He asked about the length of engagements and what time of year I wanted to get married. He even asked about ring styles. We talked budgets and moissanite. He said he wants the ring and the proposal to be a surprise, but asked for me to email him the things I like in rings and for examples that I like. He suggested that, when I come to see him again in three weeks for Christmas, we go look at some rings in person.
He said he’s been thinking about this for a while, now, but wasn’t sure how to ask some of these questions. !!!
I was blown away! I’ve mostly assumed that I had a decent amount of time left to wait, mostly because SO and I are currently in a long-distance relationship while I start grad school. He does hope to move to join me during fall next year, and I assumed it wouldn’t be until he moved in with me that we’d get the ball rolling.
I’ve been saying for a while that I can’t accept a proposal until April for some personal reasons, which he is supportive of. He made it sound like it could come as early as April, but I think that the earliest I’ll see him after that will be when we go on my family’s yearly beach trip, which just so happens to coincide this time with our 5-year anniversary. Personally, I think that’d be such a perfect time to get engaged.
This just got so much more real.