Post # 1
So DH and I were in Target today and the lady checking us out says “Is it your first?” and glanced at my belly. I had no idea what she meant so I said “First what?” she then continues with so are you going to get married? To which we replied we already were. I realized then she was asking if it was my first baby. I am NOT pregnant. I was so hurt, I have been watching what I eat and exercising for six months, I’m not heavy, I’m 5’10” and weigh 160 I have alittle gut I’ve been working on but it makes me feel like all my hard work has been for nothing. Ugh I guess it’s time to up the ante with my workouts or something.
Post # 3
ugh some people are so clueless. Sorry she hurt your feelings 🙁 Maybe it was the style shirt you were wearing, or were you buying anything baby-ish?
Post # 4
It’s not time to up the ante. It’s time to realise that people are stupid. Nobody should ever ask anyone that question, ever!!
My mom once asked a woman who wasn’t pregnant how far along she was. Fortunately she just laughed and said “oh, about 4 chocolate cakes”.
Post # 5
How did she not get the clue when you said “first what?” ??????????????? Some people are too clueless to worry about. And how RUDE to ask about your marital status! Some people should really not be allowed to talk.
Post # 6
People are just rude. It’s not time to up any antes. Although I’m 6 ft tall, I weigh quite a bit more than you do and I don’t think that I look pregnant. You would think another woman would be more sensitive about something like this! (A man saying something stupid, is kinf of expected- but it seems men never venture into this type of comment lol). I wouldn’t ever ask someone how far along they were, or if it were their first child- even if they seem obviously pregnant- they could have a medical condition or something. I would be ashamed if they weren’t pregnant.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL
My weight has gone up and down my whole life. At my heaviest I was 220 lbs and I’m 5’7.I could stand to lose a few lbs befroe the wedding, but right now I’m about 170.
Way back when I was working as a legal asst, a maintenance man asked me, “is it a boy or a girl?” and I had no idea what he was talking about. The he pointed to his own belly and made the “rounded” motion. I cheerfully said, “Oh Honey, I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat!” and laughed and walked way. Needless to say, he was MORTIFIED.
But in his defense, I was not wearing the most flattering blouse and I did look like was my 3rd trimester!
Post # 8
I’m 5’8″ and 120lbs. I gained 20lbs a few years back and people started asking me when my due date was. I was so pissed. I’m so self concious about right clothing now that it’s not even funny!
Post # 9
omg, I’m so sorry that happened to you! What a beezy!
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
This happened to me once, I got laser hair removal and was waiting for my appointment when a lady quite alarmed started saying: “you’re pregnant?! you shouldn’t get laser if you’re pregnant it’ll hurt the baby!”.
I didn’t know if laugh or cry, seriously! I’m not skinny but that was a time when I was feeling quite comfortable with my body and that was a low blow, but you have to realize some people just don’t know what they’re talking about, she might have see you in an odd angle or something. Don’t think about it!
Post # 11
I had an older woman mention something about people sending me out for beer “in my condition”. I am overweight, but there’s a difference in pregnancy weight gain and just being overweight (at least from what I’ve seen). I felt so good about myself that day too until that happened.
Some people just don’t have a filter anymore.
Post # 12
Thanks ladies! I know she just put her foot in her mouth but it was so mortfying. I realize I look just fine as is but it still stung.
Post # 13
You should have responded Nope! You’ve been pooping your whole life!
Post # 14
@AB Bride: Bahahaha, that would have been amazing!!!
Post # 15
Maybe it’s a good thing. Like I would think if you were really large overall it would be really obvious you aren’t pregnant whereasp you must only have a very small belly so she thought any fat stuck out on your otherwise fit body? Idk sounds kinda crazy but makes sense in my head lol.
Post # 16
@BlondeMissMolly: That is a great way to look at it!
This happened to me, too. I was at a reception of a high school friend’s. There was no assigned seating (which, this experience definitely made me want to assign tables for ours). We got there a bit late, and were seated with an older couple of my friend’s parents. We were talking and things were going nicely. Then, the woman asked me about my due date. I was mortified, and my FI laughed. I stammered, saying I wasn’t pregnant. She tried to cover up her faux pas, but to no avail. Soon after that, we ended up leaving. I think I was more upset with my FI laughing, but in hindsight, it was a nervous laugh, because he knew I wasn’t going to react kindly.
It does sting :-(. I used it as some motivation to lose a bit more weight. I’m back at my heaviest ever, so I’m trying to get serious about things.