Post # 1
I’ve really hit my breaking point with my FMIL and FSIL drama, I have such disgust for them…my FI and I can’t go 1 day without them contacting us and harrassing us saying tons of terrible things about us and me. My FI is no longer picking up or responding to them or talking to them, but the stress of them is really getting to us both. We are a month from the wedding and everyday we have to deal with them. Last night his sister sent him 100 texts ( yes a 100) in a matter of an hour an half, she told him she was going to take a bottle of pills and swallow them, he still didn’t respond to her and she did this for the entire evening. My FI can’t shut his phone off because it’s a work phone, he muted it but he could still see everytime she would text. Then his mother emails and again bashes me and us, and is still trying to force him to believe he shouldn’t be with me and told him she is “killing his own mother”. It’s unbelievable the games they play, they gave their answer to not come to the wedding so that’s the answer, we aren’t going to beg them and play into this, but I know this won’t end, and the next month is going to be worse hell. I have constant headaches and sick to my stomach, I can’t sleep, and when I do I wake up with anxiety attacks, my FI has lost so much weight it’s scary, he can’t eat or focus. UGH! Just needed to vent!
Post # 4
…and call a psychiatrist for your FSIL…
Post # 5
I believe in some states if someone threatens suicide, especially via writing such as in a text, you could call the local police. They will come to the house, evaluate the situation, and if necessary transport her to the hospital for a mandatory 72 hour psychiatric hold. That may not help your situation any, but she needs to know that this is serious business not a way for her to torture her brother.
Post # 6
Omg that’s horrible! I’m SO sorry that you’re both going through something so terrible. I really don’t have any advice, aside from continuing to avoid all contact. It sounds to me like they both have legitimate mental health issues. Even if there were valid reasons to dislike you, there are other, more mature ways of handling it. I hope you guys have a huge support system, you’ll want to stay close to them throughout your marriage. Good luck, I hope things get better :o/
Post # 7
yeah good idea on the cops – let the authorities handle it, b/c it’s a serious threat, even if she didn’t mean it.
Post # 8
Thanks guys, my family and our friends have been wonderful, everyone is so excited and happy for us, just not them, we lean on my family a lot for support so it’s good.
Post # 9
I am so sorry you have to go through all of this! I can def. tell you that I know what your going through though! My FSIL is horrible and on Friday I am going to the police station to have a restraining order put on her, and possibly see if she can be charged with slander and terrorizing. She is constantly bad mouthing us and making things horrible for us and his mom just sits there and tells it’s my fault because I make his sister mad by not saying to her what she wants me to say (I haven’t spoken one word to her since Easter of this year) and this weekend we found out that she is proudly going around telling everyone that she is going to object at the wedding (even though she isn’t invited, and i’m not even sure she realizes this) even though she has been told and it’s has been made quite clear that we want nothing to do with her. So hopefully a restraining order will open her eyes and if she does show up at the wedding the police will be called and she will be in contempt for violating the order and will have to sit the night in jail— that might just be the best wedding gift i could ask for!
So maybe if you can try and get a protection order or a harrassment order cause i’m thinking your in the same boat as me and it’s not going to stop or get any better but atleat there can be boundaries set that can’t be crossed until they decide to act like normal decent adults.
Best of luck!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 10
I agree with @puppymom2006: take the texts to the police, suicide threats should not be taken lightly, Yes, she was just using it to be manipulative, but if she is in a psych hospital then at least she can’t bother you guys. 🙂 Give vendors or the planner (if you have one) pictures of these two so they know to turn them away if they show up at your wedding.
Post # 11
I would see if your FI can get a new phone/phone # at work!!! He could let his supervisor know he is getting harrassing phone calls (doesn’t have to let them know who it’s from). I also agree that they should be kept away from the wedding. They are insane!! So sorry!! Best Wishes to the two of you.
Post # 12
I am so sorry they are doing this to you. You really don’t deserve this. I agree go to the authorities, and try to change phone numbers. But don’t let them get the new numbers!!Everyone has given some really good advice, I wish I had more to give.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry====those two women are insane!!!
I totally agree about the police. Actually, you might be able to threaten harassment charges and have the officers tell them to not contact you guys again and maybe that’ll shut them up? Sending 100 texts in an hour is harassment. Your FSIL knows that she doesn’t want to be heard from and yet she does that. 🙁
Post # 14
I second the suggestion that your FI try to get a new number from work. After all, his employers probably don’t want to pay for him to receive hundreds of harassing text messages either! If he can’t do that, try calling the phone company and see if they offer call blocking for a specific phone number.
I know it is really difficult, but you two are on the right track with ignoring them. If they get no response (zero, not even confirmation that you got their messages) then they will eventually get tired of doing this stuff, because it won’t be satisfying to them in any way.
Good luck, and I’m sorry that they are doing this to you…
Post # 15
i agree with puppymom i would call the police have them go to her embarrass the hell out of her, suicidal ideations and threats are serious. While i personally would have pressed harassment charges, i could see where your FI may not want to, i still would suggest it.
Post # 16
Take a break from them. I know your FI can’t turn his phone off but don’t read the texts and don’t read the emails…send them to automatically be deleted. You don’t need to be reading their venom.
If you decide to read the texts/emails and they are talking about suicide, call the police and have them do a welness call.