(Closed) I can’t get rid of the guilt!!! Am I a jerk?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Screw them! You didn’t book appointments or sign a contract. If they blocked it off without a contract, that’s their own fault.

Post # 4
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh hell no, don’t give them a dime and don’t even worry about it.  You’re golden 🙂

Post # 5
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you didnt sign a contract or book it all up, they shouldve got in touch with you sooner to ask if you would be needing their services. They didnt, so they shouldnt have booked it up and turned away clients.

@Miss Tattoo: ditto!!!

Post # 6
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You don’t owe them anything!

You didn’t sign a contract or book the services! You are in no way at fault!

Post # 7
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Screw them! If they want to get all business-y with you on the back end, they need to take care of the front end and follow up with folks!

Post # 8
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you didnt book the time/date nor returned the signed agreement – its their error.  i get that you feel bad because they did have staff sitting around not working/earning money but that is not your problem – their system failed themselves

Post # 9
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

They screwed up, now they’re trying to guilt you because they couldn’t be bothered to follow up earlier. Don’t give them a cent, and don’t feel bad.

Post # 10
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is on them, not you. There’s no reason at all for you to feel guilty. But they definitely have a reason to feel incompetent.

Post # 11
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i agree with the PPs. sounds like they are projecting their mistake onto you and trying to get some compensation for it.  Imagine the opposite scenario, lets say they booked someone else and you showed up, then they would shouting at you “you didnt sign a contract so we booked someone else!”

Post # 12
4804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Too bad for them!  I hope they learn a lesson about communication with their clients.

Post # 13
3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

They’re trying to make you feel the guilt you’re expressing here so you’ll let their mistake go and still get a profit from you.

You owe them nothing if you never signed anything, and you’re not an inconsiderate asshole. 🙂

Post # 15
2701 posts
Sugar bee

You’re not a jerk, they are dumb… They should have called you much sooner than on your wedding day to check up on you and ask about your intentions with the contract.

Post # 16
1730 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You shouldn’t feel bad at all. They should not have assumed anything without receiving a signed contract. 

I’m laughing at myself because I read your post title as “I can’t get rid of the QUILT”…I was wondering what kind of quilt and what it represented… 

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