Post # 1
I’ll spare ya’ll the details, but I have some weird gynecological issue that has been going on for WEEKS. In spite of doctor visits and several medications I haven’t gotten better. I think we’re rounding week 4 of no sex b/c 1. I’m super uncomfy! 2. IDK exactly what is is and therefore don’t want him to get anything and 3. I’m on something thats effectiveness could be weakened if we have sex.
No, it’s definitely not an STD, in case you were wondering!
Anyway, I guess I’m just venting here. I’ve given up my “services” to him in other ways but we all know that’s not the same, and the last time I did so, I got so turned on that I couldn’t sleep, and I have no point of release! It’s really not fair.
Anyone been through something like this?? I know this has to happen when you’re pregnant. I just feel very guilty that I can’t perform my “wifely” duties, not to mention I’m DYING! I really hope this issue gets resolved soon so I can resume my normal way of life!! *shakes fist in the air*
Post # 2
Don’t feel guilty, you don’t “owe” anyone anything. He’ll get over it.
Post # 3
sex is nice when both want it / are able to have it. I don’t believe in there being a “right” to sex in a relationship or having “wifely duties”. It’s not like you’re punishing him becaus he didn’t get you the gift you wanted or anything.
a relationship should be about much more than sex and you’ll surely survive not having any for a while.
Hope theyll find out what it is soon an that you’ll get better and things can get back on track 😉
Post # 4
Aww sorry you’re going through this. I guess he’ll just have to settle for blowjobs
Post # 5
BurlapnLace: He’ll get over it.
Post # 6
I’ve been in a similar situation before. I kept FI happy with hands and mouth, and he kept me happy with his fingers. Depending on the issue, he ought to be able to give you an O just by touching you on the outside, no? Or even through your panties? It was a tough 6-9 weeks or so (can’t really remember) but FI got through it, as many men have done before him and as your FI will as well.
Post # 7
We waited the normal 6 weeks after having a baby to have sex while I recovered. It hurt really bad the first few times we tried, and still hurts sometimes 5 months postpartum. I just did the other stuff, and he was fine with it.
Post # 8
BurlapnLace: Actually sex during pregnancy is great! But a break in sex is necessary after giving birth, for a month or two. Not to mention couples who get separated due to military postings etc. Lots of other people manage and so will you and your FI!
Post # 9
BurlapnLace: I’m going through something very, very similar….like I think we might be going through the same thing. I don’t know that I feel bad though– to be honest I’m just more frustrated with what’s going on with ME LOL– because I’m really uncomfortable.
My husband has been super understanding–
wonder if we are dealing with the same thing!!
Post # 10
I have never heard a guy voice complaint that he would not be happy with a blowjob or a handjob in the absence of intercourse.
You can also relieve your own frustration with masturbation or he can do it for you.
Post # 11
He’ll live. You don’t “owe” him anything, and “wifely duties” is incredibly antiquated.
Post # 12
This is life. If your hubs has a problem with it (not saying he does though) than that is his problem. Think if the roles were reversed… you’d be compassionate to your DH that he has a painful or medical problem preventing him from DTD…right?
Post-pregnancy, it was almost 10 weeks before we could DTD again… DH didn’t complain once.
I hope you feel better soon! Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Post # 13
julies1949: +1, blowjobs are always welcome lol
Post # 14
He’ll get over it. He has a hand. 😉
Post # 15
Oh trust me, he’s been incredibly understanding (well, as much as he can be!) and actually commended me on how amenable I’ve been through the discomfort for weeks. I haven’t been working out much due to this, either, so it’s affecting my daily life. HE’S the one that said don’t feel bad about the lack of sex – I think at this point, I’M the one who’s getting irrationally frustrated!!
Anyway, it is what it is. I’m sure this won’t be the last “dry spell” we incur through our marriage. It actually puts my mind at ease a little just to vent about it on here 🙂