- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Hi Bees. I need advice!
I am having trouble with my invite list! I plan on only inviting a few aunts and uncles from my mother’s side but not ALL of them. Reasons being that I haven’t seen the uninvited ones since I was a teenager and I am paying for the wedding and cannot afford a large guest list. I plan on only inviting the ones I occasionally talk to or have seen recently but most of the family lives right flippin’ next door to each other(literally). Kid you not. My mother feels like I should invite them all since she does not want her brothers and sisters to feel excluded and have their feelings hurt. I will see them all next year when we are having our first family reunion in the summer and she says it will be extra akward when I talk them and have to explain why Aunt ABC could come but why I didn’t invite Aunt XYZ to my wedding. I can see why she feels this way and honestly if I could invite them all I would! My problem is mostly cost and I am having a backyard wedding so I don’t know where they would all fit!! She has 8 brothers and sisters. With husband and wifes and children my guest list would jump up to a very high number!! I’m getting anxiety just thinking about it!
I just don’t want to offend that side of the family by picking and choosing but that is exactly what my budget is allowing me to do. My family is chatty so I KNOW this will be talked about amongst each other. It hurts to know they will feel left out!!
How do I talk to the rest of the family the reunion when they meet my FH? Do I mention why they couldn’t come even though they will all know who came to the wedding? I am excited for FH to finally meet my whole family but holy cow I feel like I am putting myself in a akward situation since my wedding will be three months before the reunion. I will introduce him normally but I am just praying they won’t ask why they weren’t invited but odds are they will. They are VERY straight forward and blunt. I am very passive and shy so this will be new territory for me.
How do I handle this????
What should I say to them??