Post # 1
First of all, don’t take this topic too seriously. I don’t want to sound like a drama queen, but I do feel sad about this and thought I’d share!
I just got engaged this weekend, and I’m over the moon! See this topic http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/help-my-boyfriend-kidnapped-me/#axzz312VuXu8j for my romantic proposal story!
But now I’m disliking myself because I can’t even remember the actual proposal! It’s just completely faded from my memory and I wish I could get it back. I do remember when he grabbed my hands, and started talking to me softly.. Then we got disturbed by the waitress who brought the next course (it happened over dinner), and we lost the focus. Once we had regained focus, he was on his knees and popped the question, but I really just don’t remember him asking if I wanted to marry him, or me saying yes. It’s just as if it’s never happened! I really regret this. I know I have no way of getting back this memory, and in the end it really doesn’t matter because we’re engaged now. So apparently I did say yes! I just don’t remember.
This makes me sad because it’s such a special moment, and now when I’m telling people about the proposal and engagement, I can’t really recall the feeling of it. I think it may just have been the emotions playing up that resulted in forgetting that little part of the proposal, but since it was the MOST IMPORTANT part, I do feel bad about it. We have lovely memories of the entire engagement weekend, so no worries, I love looking back on it, I just dislike my brain for forgetting one of the most important moments of my life! 😉 Let’s hope this doesn’t happen during the I Do’s!
Anybody else had a similar experience whose brain messed up at a moment like this?
Post # 2
Don’t feel bad. I actually don’t remember what my fiancé said either. I remember I teared up and that he said will you marry me but leading up to that I have no recollection of what he said which sucks. So you are not alone! 🙂
Post # 3
SkinnyLatte17: Oh that makes me feel a little better! 🙂 My fiancé did write down his speech and I’ve reread it, so I do recollect the speech before the actual proposal, just not the phrases ‘Will you marry me’ and ‘Yes’ which is kind of the whole point. Lol. Well. I know I shouldn’t worry, but I just feel sad because the night was so special for the rest of it. At least I am able to recollect that special feeling, so that’s something.
Oh and I didn’t want to share the speech with my family. They asked what he had said in his speech, but it felt too private and personal. They already knew everything before the proposal, they knew all about his plans, so at least, this feels like a little something between the two of us. So at least I cherish that thought. It really was personal.
Post # 4
I’m kind of the same way, don’t worry. The second I saw him down on one knee, it was almost like tunnel vision kicked in. Every thought possible went through my head and I don’t necessarily remember hearing the exact words “will you marry me?” and then I knew I had to give a response and literally the thoughts that went through my head were “he asked me a question, answer! yes! no! maybe! Those are my options, Yes!” I had no hesitation in marrying him or saying yes but it was just such an overwhelming moment, my mind went into overdrive! Don’t feel too bad!
Post # 5
Literally every woman I’ve ever talked to after a proposal says this same thing, especially the ones who didn’t know it was coming. You are not alone!
Emotions wreak all sorts of havoc on the human memory- you probably ran the gamut of emotions during the proposal! If you’re like me, you were also probably somewhat distracted by your own interal monologue along the lines of “Oh my god, this is happening! Wait, is there somehing in my teeth? All these people have stopped eating and are watching us! What is that waiter doing? Ooh, sparkly ring! I can’t wait to call my mom/dad/sister/best friend! Eeee!” 🙂
Congratulations on your engagement, what a lovely story! And the part about not remembering is a part of it, it actually makes it sweet that you were so excited you can’t remember what exactly he said.
Post # 6
I don’t really remember mine either! He really suprised me, a ton of family was there, and I was so confused as to what was happening! I just kept thinking “omg did he not ask my dad?” (he did, but pretended that he didn’t in the weeks leading up to the proposal to throw me off). I have a vague memory of him asking will you marry me, but I don’t remember saying yes (I did). I think that this is maybe semi-normal? It’s just a lot is happening at once, a lot of emotions, a lot to process!
Post # 7
waterbaby: Hahaha! These things actually went through my mind: ” All these people have stopped eating and are watching us! What is that waiter doing?” I wondered whether I should look around to see if anybody was watching us (I don’t think so, it felt super private and we were in a quiet corner of the restaurant), and I got a little annoyed that the waitress disturbed us twice! But since it felt like such a private moment and he only got on his knee when he asked the question, I doubt she even knew this was the proposal.. She knew in advance, and it was a three star restaurant, so if she had known, she would have totally left us alone, no hard feelings toward her of course.. So basically those were the thoughts I had. <br /><br />Good to hear I’m not the only one whose mind was not only blown away but also switched off at the same time 😛
Post # 8
Yeah, parts of mine are fuzzy too. Makes me a little sad sometimes but I know I said yes.
Post # 9
I don’t remember what my fiance said either! The funny thing is that he doesn’t even remember because he was so nervous. it was a total surprise to me….I just remember him getting down on one knee and tearing up and me being pretty much speechless. I remember, vaguely, him asking me to marry him and then having to prompt me to say yes because I was still in shock. My sister has it all on video and it’s quite funny to watch. I will always remember the look on his face when he was proposing though. I felt so much love 🙂
Post # 10
I had an awesome engagement and neither of us can remember what he said…lol. No worries!