Post # 1
Part of me wants to save the stress of planning and money and just have a dinner but I am afraid I will regret not having a DJ, flowers, etc. I dont know why I am concerned with what people will think but I am. We just bought a townhouse so our resources could easily go elsewhere. However, I am hell bent on weating the big white puffy gown at least once and think I know where we will have it regardless of what we do. There is a beauiful golf course in my hometown where my church is. We better book fast though because they book up. Suggestions?
Post # 2
It depends on what you want.. don’t let what your potential guests think alter what you want. Buying a new home is expensive and if you feel that the majority of your budget would be suited to your house then have a smaller wedding or vice versa… It’s totally up to you and your FI!
Most importantly though, don’t do what other tell you or if they say “what will they think?”… it doesn’t matter. Your happiness is number #1!
Post # 3
Right! I just wish I knew what that was. I am leaning towards a traditional wedding but on a smaller scale. We won’t have a videographer, no favors, etc.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I wore the big white dress and still had “just” a dinner. That’s what we wanted. I advise you to sit down with your FI, talk about the 3 things that are most important to you, the 3 things that are most important to him, and how much each of you are comfortable spending. Take that comfortable amount and your 6 priorities, and figure it out from there.
Post # 5
Some restaurants will allow a dance floor and dj. Maybe you can go that route, then you won’t have to worry about renting chairs, tables, linens, etc.
If you’re ok with ethnic restaurants, then you’ll save a lot of money. I originally was leaning towards this route and found out a lot of restaurants would only charge me $30/head and I’d get the whole restaurant (assuming my guest list is > 100) for my wedding.
And a lot of restaurants already have decorations, so you wouldn’t need to really put flowers up. If you do, just get small vases and flowers from Costco.
As the other PPs said, just evaluate what’s important to you and your FI.
Post # 6
I was originally going to do a small simple wedding with just a dinner reception. I ended up doing a smallish traditional wedding and did the flowers, and dancing and whole shabbang. There were definitely times planning it that the stress questioned my decision, but in the end I wouldn’t have traded my wedding for anything. It was a blast. It is the only time in your life to have that particular group of people all together at the same time, so definitely make the most of it.
Post # 7
What does your other half want? If you’re truly ambivalent, I’d go with his/her impulse.