Post # 1
Its is such a long story…I’ve been into with these ppl for over a year now. His mom is a drama queen who like to keep shit kicked up amongst ppl. She’s constantly on myspace and facebook talking shit like some teeny bopper still in high school. His brother is always writing checks his ass can’t cash. My brother has threatened to do horrible things to this man cuz of some of the shit he has said to me( like threaten my life). The thing is he talks the talk but cant’ walk the walk. He talks crap to everyone. And then there’s his gf who’s ass I want to stomp a hole in so bad. She’s a shit talker to but only by phone or text message never to my face. I haven’t been this upset or cursed this much in a long time but these ppl bring it out of me. And his mom always wants to play the victim. My FI doesn’t even talk to them or go around them anymore cuz of the way they act. I don’t wanna say I hate these ppl cuz thats a really strong word but I really really really really really dislike them. I don’t want my son around them and any future kids that we have either. I won’t be inviting them to the wedding either. How does that sound? Not inviting your mother in law to the wedding? Wow…but yep there it is!
Post # 3
Well, I think that if your FI doesn’t even want his family there, then they shouldn’t be invited. If you’re both on the same page, you know…
Post # 4
oh no! sorry to hear you guys are all going through it. what triggered all of this?
Post # 5
Sounds like you are doing the right thing by not accepting the bad behavior. It’s good that FI is on the same page. The further you can distance yourself from the toxicity, the better. Best to you.
Post # 6
that’s terrible! I don’t understand why people go around saying or doing that kind of stuff. I’m glad you are on the same page and hope things get better between you in the near future!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies…..this saga will continue I’m sure but yea myFI and I are on the same page. Thank God! Its just sad cuz this is suppose to be his family ya know. O well life goes on…..way on.
Post # 8
wow – that really sucks… but, there is good news!!!! thing to remember is that you and your FI are creating your own family unit – and you dont have to have these people involved in a daily basis with that unit. its you and him with time share visitors so start training yourself and your FI now to have less care factor towards the family drama.
if they want to discuss something with you just flat out say that youre not interested in taking side/getting involved and keep saying that. if they want to start dramas with you, walk away because you do not want to invest any of your emotions into it
seems like you picked the normal one out of the family so i suggest the 2 of you keep being a team and put up borders against the nuts
good luck and sending hugs