Post # 1
I would consider myself chubby..and not very ashamed of it. I wish I was thinner yes, and while I try to at least mantain a somewhat healthy eating lifestyle I have put on about fifteen pounds since I moved out. If I could muster more energy I would work out more but it’s just not there. A few weeks ago I did work out three times in a week but I lost the motivation.
Anyways, It realllllly gets on my nerves when girls (who are like thirty pounds lighter than me) complain that they are soooo fat. Give me a break! I know I’m not so don’t make me feel bad about the extra chub I have on me (A lot of people don’t even consider me chubby but I try not to talk about it). My FSIL was trying on bridesmaid dresses the other day and said she’s a size 4. I would die to be that tiny. At my thinnest I think I wore a six?
What makes it worse is that she told me that she and her bf put their “fat” pictures up on their fridge at home to remind them of how fat they are and to stay thin. I’ve seen those pictures, NOT FAT! I mean, sometimes when she brings it up I just want to slug her. I worked with a girl who did this too. She’d say she was getting fat and would cut out all sugar in her diet when she was disguistingly thin. Does this bother anyone else???
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Well, you have to remember that when people say things like this it is in no way aimed at you. Everyone has their insecurities, and people who are skinny are just as likely to feel insecure about their weight as people who are not.
I can understand how it’s frustrating, but it’s not directed at you in any way, and it’s really just her being uncomfortable with something about her body.
Post # 4
I’m right there with you with wanting to slug girls, who in my opinion, are nowhere near fat. But I don’t do it because it is my opinion, and there opinion is theirs. Fat is subjective. What you might consider chubby, others may think “ideal weight for me.” I know that if I let something affect me, there is more to it than annoyance. Often it is because what they are saying/doing is something that I don’t like about what I am saying/doing.
Post # 5
@baldor1: True point. Thank you for pointing that out. I don’t think I would ever literally slug someone, I’m not violent at all. And I used to be very skinny (grossly but I couldn’t help it, I would eat all the time) just fattened myself up a little healthier. I mean being 5′ 2″ and 125 is barely chubby right?!.
I have a friend who knows she is very skinny and hates it and tries to fatten herself up. I feel bad for her because I know people make fun of her.
I know that they aren’t directing it towards me, it just makes me self-conscience like are they checking out my tummy right now when they say that?
Post # 6
I’m probably one of those girls that annoys you. I’m a size 00-2 (although I’m only 5 feet) and still complain when I feel like I’m having a “fat” day. Like Cardigan said, though, my comments are in no way directed at people who are larger than me; just because I feel I am chubby doesn’t mean I think those larger than me need to lose weight!
Take it with a grain of salt, most women are insecure in their bodies.
Post # 7
I am probably one of those girls…except I usually only say it to my best friend who is smaller then me (because I don’t want to get a hard time since I’m small and also don’t want to offend anyone). I am 5’6 and a size 0/2 but I still have fat days! I still feel self concious after eating pizza or donuts and then putting on a tiny bikni, etc
I don’t think *most* people who say that mean it personally at all. It is annoying if people say it everyday/constantly but sometimes everyone has a fat/not pretty/blah day
Post # 8
Oh God. Yes, I hate that! I’ve always been overweight. Always. I’ve done so many diets in my 27 years, it’s not even funny. I’m currently losing weight in an non-diet way (yay!) and I feel good about it, but let’s just say that years of yo yo dieting through adolescence (metabolife at age 12, atkins at 14, south beach at 19, etc.) has completely f-ed up my metabolism. That being said, I once lost 60 pounds (not in a good way!) during college. At my smallest I was a size 14. My roommate at the time wore a size 4. She saw me lose weight and became horribly jealous. She started doing the same diet I was on, and complained when nothing happened. She’d ask me what I did to make my stomach look so flat. I told her, “nothing, I just have giant boobs.” She’d make a huge show of having only salads, peanutbutter smoothies, or frozen peas for meals. She was crazy. Honestly, I was still struggling to get to a healthy weight and to hear her complain about how fat she was all the time made me think I’d never get to a healty weight. I’d like to think it wasn’t about ‘me’ but in truth I definitely think that she would say things about her own weight to me to remind me that I was still heavier than her. I’m pretty sure it made her feel better that even though I was losing weight, I was still fatter than her. We’re not really friends anymore, to say the least.