Post # 1
I can’t stand the fact that people surrounding me have decided to all ask why we’re not married yet. Not only do they do this, they do it over and over again.
Thank you, now what would you like me to do about it?
I could bash my head against the wall until I look like a crazy person and maybe he’ll take pity on me. I could walk around naked. I could ask him (no, if I’m gonna plan this thing he’s at least got to do the proposal). I could cry, oh wait did that. I could smear him with peanut butter and threaten to sick the dog on him. I could beat him within 6 inches of his life. I could drug him and take him to Mexico where a shaman will make him be my slave for 24 hours where I delude him into asking me. I could sell my soul to Satan but those automatic doors are everywhere, I’d never be able to get groceries.
Yet none of those things really equates to a perfect marriage. So here I wait. Possibly going insane, but thanks for asking. Again.
Post # 3
I would tell them something like, “I don’t know (why we’re not engaged/married), you should ask HIM.” This way it deflects from you and puts the ball in his court. Plus, maybe that’ll get him thinking if people start asking him! Haha! That’s sort of how I handle it.
Post # 4
I totally understand. My father even had to initiate the “permission conversation” with my guy. That was this summer, and still no ring.
I recently met up with a cousin who lives on the west coast, she announced her engagement immediately, and she, her guy, and all three of her friends with her asked at some point that night if/ when we were married. The parents of the kids at the preschool I teach at ask me. It drives me nuts and makes me angry at both them and my guy.
Post # 5
@MissPatience: i hate that question “when are you two getting married?”!!!!! i just answer with “as soon as he asks” that usually shuts them up real quick. 😉
Post # 6
I just say Im waiting on him. Point to him and do a playful glare…
Post # 7
OMG! I HATE THAT QUESTION! I vow to never ask someone that!
As a waiting lady myself, I always get asked!ALWAYS!…Give it a break people!
I usally answer with I don’t know ask him why not? or if they ask when are you two getting married? I answer with I don’t know.. maybe you should ask him.
Post # 8
I hate that question with a passion. Esp. from the judgmental acquaintences who got married as soon as they could. I’ve even gotten the, “Maybe you have a knack for picking guys who can’t commit?” Seriously?! *rolling eyes*
Post # 9
@Dr Pepper: 1. LOVE your namesake – so delicious!
2. I generally don’t get too many comments about that, thank goodness. But the people who have asked have just done it cause they are excited for me.
The ones that get me the most – also, where it happens the most – is by my SO’s family. They’re giving SO and I a heck of a time about being next since the two cousins his age are engaged (well, one couple got married last weekend). I’ve started just acting the fool like it’s not even on the radar. What I really want to do though is just yell at them for asking me. How the heck would I know? I’m the one who’s freaking waiting over here. Ask YOUR (cousin, nephew, grandson). NOT me. He knows the details. However, I know he’s feeling frustrated by them and doesn’t want it to seem like he’s copying his cousins, so I wouldn’t set him up like that.
….I really want to yell though….
Post # 10
One answer I like is “You’ll know when we’re engaged.”
I always want to say “Ask him”, but that runs the risk of generating pity, so I don’t.
Post # 11
@love108: I actually tried that! Wanna know what happened? My grandmother CALLED HIM AND ASKED!
@Dr Pepper: I hate that question! I’ve gotten it so much lately that I just run away and make my bf deal with it.