Post # 1
I was just married a week ago in Pennsylvania. When we went to the courthouse to apply for the marriage license, I said I wanted to take his last name, but after talking about it with him, I’d like to keep my name as it is. The marriage license will have his name on it, but I don’t want to change it now. Does anyone know if I can get this corrected to keep my name as it is, since it’s only been a week? Or is there a long, costly process involved? I basically just want to stay who I am
Thanks in advance for any help or advice anyone has!
Post # 3
@starymist: I actually discussed this with a lawyer recently, & from what I gather, having his name on the marriage license doesn’t mean you HAVE to take it. You are technically still the person that is on your social security card, & until you change then, nothing about your name or identity will change. All having his last name on your marriage license means is that you have the opportunity to take his name more easily should you decide to do so later, since you won’t have to petition the courts for a legal name change.
Basically, it won’t hurt anything to leave the license as it is (as far as I understand). I suppose if, for your own reasons, you want the license amended to have your maiden name on it (even though having the married name doesn’t hurt anything from what I can tell) then I think you will have to pay something like $150 to have the courts change it, but that isn’t the big of a deal really.
Btw, I envy that your husband is okay with you keeping your maiden name! Mine isn’t, hence speaking to the lawyer about name options lol.
Post # 4
It was actually his idea in a way, he mentioned it today in conversation. My first, middle and last name go together so perfectly and he said he almost feels like he’s ruining a unique name. He is so sweet! I also am considering keeping my last name because I am the only person left from the paternal side of my family, other than my grandpa and uncle. There’s no one else to “carry on the name” and it’d be nice to stay who I am 🙂
Thanks for the info, that eases my mind a bit. I was worred that I’m forced to change it now that I agreed to, and it doesn’t bother him either way what I decide to do.