Post # 1
So our sex life sucks. Point blank. When I’m in the mood he’s not and when I’m not he is. We have a two year old who mostly sleeps with us. She is terrified of the dark. So we don’t get much alone time a it is. Well Darling Husband friend just moved back into town and has been over the past couple nights. I’m pregnant and tired by ten.
Well tonight Darling Husband friend is staying over because of his birthday. Darling Husband just came in the room and took the biggest dump. He then came and laid down next to me to try to put me in the mood. My sense of smell got the beaut of me and I smelt poop and told him. He got up pissed and said he is done trying to have sex with me. I don’t want him to go find it somewhere else!
i feel bad lit A) he smelt like poop and B) his friend is in the other room.
how do we get our sex life back? I feel like a failure as a wife.
Post # 3
1)i think you might need to get the two yr old out of the bed. Sorry i know it might not be a great situation, but honestly, it makes it hard to want to do the horizontal tango when someone else is in the bed with you.
2) both sleep naked.seriously.
3) do something that makes YOU feel good. When we start to feel good about ourselves we project that. And it brings conidence.. confidence is sexy. (and keep doing those things that make you feel good!!)
4)exercise. the more you move the more blood circulates around your body. The more you will probably feel like getting in the mood.
5)flirt with your husband. make him feel sexy.
hope it helps.. good luck.
ETA: i think it sounds a bit up myself, but this is what has worked for us. we went through a “dry” period and it honestly sucks, you gotta work at it. I am very attracted to my hubby, but we have to work at it together.
Post # 4
I agree with sleeping naked.
Since the start of my relationship we always slept naked, and tons of times we’ve woke eachother up to have sex.
Try jumping in the shower with him and stuff
Post # 5
(1) Make sure the friend leaves tomorrow. (2) Get a night light for your little one. It may take a few nights getting her to sleep in her own bed but it’ll be worth it. (3) Make sure you explain to that being pregnant and looking after your 2yo means you’re wiped out by 10. (4) Then suggest a time, e.g. let’s aim for 8pm tomorrow night.
The dump is just one of those unlucky things. Perhaps suggest he showers before sex? I’ve convinced my Darling Husband to use mouthwash, so maybe you can convince yours to shower. As a reward, slip into lingerie while he showers.
Post # 6
Also agreeing with sleep naked. It gets pretty chilly in our house at night, so we used to be tempted to put PJs on anyway, but it we have way less sex in PJs, so we bought a big, heavy duvet instead. It’s a sex-life saver.
I also find I’m not in the mood at night when I’m tired, so we try to do it before getting up in the morning or in the evening when Darling Husband gets home from work. (I know that’s probably easier said than done with a two-year-old, but if you can it’s worth a shot.)