(Closed) New house, New job, New student! How do I stay on top of everything?

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Post # 4
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I use google calendar to stay organzied.  I work out to keep the stress levels down.  Sometimes I find it necessary to add planned together time on the google calendar to make sure Fi and I are are spending time together.

Good luck!

Post # 7
1543 posts
Bumble bee

(*Eeeek, my 1000th post, yay!) 

No advice on the busy part, but plenty about waiting tables. Just relax, and don’t worry about dropping food/drinks. Start slow, and don’t carry more than you think you can. You’ll eventually work your way up to carrying loads w/ no trouble. I’m right handed, and carry everything on my left, so I can serve w/ my right. (Make sense?) Most other servers are the same way; hold/balance w/ their non-dominant hand/arm, and serve with the other. 

Just be nice, curteous, polite, and treat customers the way you would want to be treated. Basic customer service. Don’t be afraid to tell them you’re new, and to please bear w/ you. Most good patrons will give you a break when they know this. Cracking jokes will also help to break the ice, self-deprecating ones seem to work the best, and warm up the table to you. 

As far as tips? Sooo many variables. It depends on what part of the country you’re in, small town or big city, what type of establishment it is, the environment, the price and content of the menu. Also, what type of customers frequent the place. Bunch of high school and college kids? They’re broke, won’t spend much, and barely if at all tip. Older grannies and gramps seem to be el cheapos, too. Usually, the middle generations tend to be the best tippers, and drinkers (alcohol) are also usually good tippers. Generally, the bigger the check, the more tips. 

ETA: A tip for getting along w/ coworkers/bosses. You will start at the bottom, and will be treated that way. You’ll get the worst side jobs, and have to do all the extra grunt work, so to speak. Basically, you have to pay your dues, and do it w/ a smile. Once you’ve “proven” that you don’t mind a little hard work, it’ll get better, and someone new will come along that will do all the shitty work. Does it suck? Yep. Such is the beast of working in food and beverage. 
I could write a book on waiting tables. PM me with specific q’s if you like. 

Good luck w/ your full plate, though! (Pun intended) Wink

Post # 9
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MsBrooklynA: I feel for you. I’m a full time PhD student taking classes and working on a graduate assistantship, and I just got hired as a part time instructor to teach a class at another university. We’re hoping to move soon, though probably just a rental so I won’t have to deal with that stuff. Though I wish I were! I love home improvement and DIY (hello, wedding) so I think it would be a fun challenge. Enjoy yourself. These are good, exciting things. Don’t get too stressed. Everyone has a learning curve; I’ve never waitressed (Former cashier here; my friends and I are convinced you’re either a retail or food services person, not both.) so I don’t have any specific tips, but I’m sure the other people where you work will be able to help you get the hang of it. I can definitely give you suggestions for school, though, since I am basically a professional student (much less glamorous than it sounds, honest). Make lists. Keep a calendar! If you stay organized, it’s less daunting and easier to stay on top of. If you’re tempted to skip class, I suggest calculating out your tuition per class. That can be motivating. You’re paying $XXX.XX per class, and if you don’t go, you’ve just thrown that money away. Good luck!

Post # 11
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I SO feel you right now.

I’m going thorugh a crazy time as well.

I just quit my job, I am moving internationally, and my wedding is in less than 2 months.

I definately get overwhelmed from time to time and wonder if I’m absolutely insane embracing this much change at once.

I’ve just really had to focus on taking everything one day at a time.

I’m trying to continue doing things for me, like working out and horseback riding.

I’m also trying to make sure to make time every day to touch base with Fiance (5 hr time difference makes that hard).

Fiance and I have shared calendars which helps a lot. With him in London we don’t use it as much, but when he was here we’d use it to schedule nights that we’d have events to go to together.

So, I guess I don’t really have an answer on how you stay on top of everything.

I’ve created different folders in my gmail for Wedding, Honeymoon, UK Genereal, and Job Serach just to keep my e-mails organized.

But some days I feel like I’m barely keeping my head above water.

I actually posted about it a few weeks ago and got some good advice.

Post # 12
3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m hardly a pro because I’m still figuring out how to make the most of the 24 measly hours in a day, but I have learned a lot in the past year about fitting it all in. I am a full-time teacher, coach, and freelance writer. Plus SO and I work different schedules, so our time together is even more limited.

  • HAVE A PLANNER. Sounds basic, but you would be amazed how often you might forget you had a work shift, class, a meeting, appointment, etc. on a certain day. It’s embarrassing to have to explain to people that you double-booked!
  • HAVE ONE DATE NIGHT PER WEEK: Hold each other accountable to this one. It can be as simple as renting a Redbox movie and curling up on the couch, playing games all night, or going out to a sit-down dinner. But if you don’t make time for each other, you will feel even more stressed than you already are. 
  • SPLIT CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE: If you’re busy, sometimes simple tasks like taking out the trash or doing the dishes can seem really overwhelming. Make sure that you and your SO are both taking care of business around the house so one person isn’t totally overwhelmed.
  • BREATHE: Remember you are human. You should always do your best, but you can only do so much. Remember to eat well, get plenty of sleep, and take care of yourself. I sacrificed a lot of sleep time during my first year of teaching, but it just made things harder in the long run because I would end up getting really sick and being out of commission for a few days because of it.

You can do this!! 🙂

Post # 13
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MsBrooklynA:Yup, my google calendar is connected to my phone.  This way when I making plans, I just have to look up the date on my phone to make sure I’m free.

Post # 14
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MsBrooklynA: It depends on the class, honestly. I’ve already had classes where I didn’t do any reading besides the lecture notes ever and breezed through. For grad school now, obviously that is not the case. School is my full time job, so I really do treat it like a job. I get up and “go to work” and take breaks like regular, but I’ll just read for 8 hrs a day if I have to. I’m online a lot because I’m at my desk all the time, so I might read a chapter then post something. It keeps the day moving. It also helps to know yourself — when do you do your best work? I discovered (while procrastinating — I don’t recommend that part!) that I work best in the early mornings. The day hasn’t crept into my mind yet and I can stay very focused while sipping some tea. So when I’m working on term papers or big projects, I get up extra early and work exclusively on them before I have anything else to do that day. I worked full time and went to school full time as an undergrad, and that was definitely difficult. Agree with PP to make sure you keep some me time or you’ll go crazy. You just have to put the time in even if it means 12 hour days, but then cut yourself a break that weekend for a few hours. I use a planner, too. Old school paper style, though I’d like to transition to online when I get a smartphone. Cuz I’m still a dinosaur who does nothing but talk and text on my old phone.

Your words are encouraging to me, too. I get very frustrated with grad school and wonder why I bother sometimes. I like the work, but I am getting fed up with the lifestyle (that is to say, being broke and commuting 1.5 hr).

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