Post # 1
So this is just a vent…
We have not invited children 12 and younger to our wedding. Personal preference and we have been consistent about this for the 16 months that we have been engaged.
Our RSVP cards said “__ seats have been reserved in your honor” so that things were very clear to people.
We got a RSVP card back from FI’s cousin. This invite only invited him and his wife, not their two children who are 3 and 5. They returned the RSVP card declining attendance at our wedding. They also included a very wordy note. The note basically said that their children were their “indebted blessings” who they could not be away from for even a night. They also let us know at the end of the not that when we have children we will “understand the true meaning of life.”
FI thought it was hilarious, but I couldn’t help but feel a bit offended. They could have just declined and left it at that! No crazy note necessary!
I am not really looking forward to another week of receiving RSVPs in the mail!
Post # 3
Really? Not one night alone ever? They never go on a date, or to the movies or to dinner without their toddlers?
Post # 4
Your FI is right…that is HILARIOUS! ROFL!! Besides…better have them decline than show up with their “indebted blessings” in tow.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I can’t stand when parents say stuff like “wait until you have kids.” Ugh. How patronizing.
Post # 6
I can only pray that when I have children I NEVER refer to them as “indebted blessings.” What does that even mean? How rude!
Are you getting a babysitter? We felt obligated because everyone is out of town. Just curious…
Post # 7
Their loss, and to be honest…I’m kinda hoping that some of my relatives will feel like they need to stay home because they can’t be without their kids either…lol…mean, I know!!
Post # 8
i have a kid and requested that people not bring theirs.. i’ll deal with mine at my wedding, he is very well behaved, but i cartainly don’t want to deal with yours.. personal preference though
Post # 9
Wow. That’s priceless! I’m going to side with your fiance – that’s absolutely hilarious.
Post # 10
Omg. People are so odd/crazy lol
Post # 11
It’s the kind of thing that is so gratuitously rude and offensive that you just have to laugh it off. How absurd. Just don’t plan on having much of a relationship with them in the future, they clearly want to burn the bridge!
Post # 12
I was upset at first, but now I do think it is funny! I was at first upset and then we were driving to dinner with FI and said what does “indebted blessings” even mean?! We looked at each other and just started cracking up!
We do plan to have kids so some day we will finally see the light and understand the true meaning of life! haha
@fitzly: We are not hiring a babysitter to be at our venue. My view is that it is not our responsibility to provide a babysitter for people’s children. Personal view really. Now if someone asked me about a babysitter, I could refer them to a house full of ice sorority sisters who I know since I was in a sorority in college. I am not footing that bill though!
Post # 13
We left our children to attend weddings and enjoy the weddings and the time away. How sad that these parents are so wrapped up in their children that they are keeping them from forming substantive relationships with others. Children should have family friends that they can trust, spend time with and learn from.
Best wishes on your upcoming wedding. You deserve the wedding of your dreams.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House
Oh goodness! Just make note of these crazy things that you will not do in the future! Jeesh! My “blessings” will certainly stay with babysitters.
Post # 15
That is crazy. I would’ve been upset too, andI probably would’ve wanted to tell them off. That couple would have given me a good laugh (after I cooled off) and burned a bride with us.
Post # 16
Oh, unsolicited advice. If only people knew what ASSES they sound like when they give it. LMFAO.
You should save that RSVP for a good laugh on your anniversary.