I cried at work today…and I am humiliated.

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
795 posts
Busy bee

@Bostongrl25:  you’re human, and they know that. Don’t beat yourself up over it. If anything, it shows them that you really do care. (((Hugs))) 

Post # 4
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I have 🙁 For a much dumber reason than that, too! Thankfully everything at my job is really casual. Don’t worry about it too much! Everyone has their days, so they will understand. 

Post # 5
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

@Bostongrl25:  Ugh, I can imagine how horrified you were. But I honestly think people are more sympathetic than judgemental most of the time. Probably your boss simply thought: “Oh, she’s having a tough day,” or something similar. I wouldn’t stress over it. If you really want to “clear” the air or something, I think the best way is to have a sense of humor about it. That always makes people feel less akward.

I cry fairly often at work, but that’s b/c I’m a teacher, and every other book makes me cry. Last week it was Because of Winn-Dixie.

Post # 6
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think you’ve done everything you can at this point. You apologized. Now, you just have to forget about it and basically, pretend it never happened. Then, try to find some sort of ourside stress relief – kickboxing, yoga, swimming, hot baths and wine. Whatever helps you calm down and release some of the stress that you are holding onto. Sometimes, you just get to that breaking point and unfortunately, it happened at a bad time. 

Post # 7
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I cried at my year review a few weeks ago. My manager (second to the owner) informed me of an issue. I was almost let go a few months ago because the owner thought I didn’t like him, thought I was rude and had a bad attitude. Normally, with everyone else, I am really chipper and happy-go-lucky. I never really talk to him or address him. In all actuality, I am (well, was) scared to death of this man!! He has  had a temper and has blown up on me for the stupidest shit and I also felt he hated ME…so I tried not to bother him. I felt horrible. The owner had a lot of stress when I first started and since then things are great at my office. The owner and I chit chat more and I even ended up w/ a raise. Turns out my performance at work is A+ I just needed to open up more.


Post # 8
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bostongrl25:  Yes, I have cried at work!  I work in a tax accounting office with all women so we have a running joke that everyone cries at work one time a year.  Its completely understandable because we get overwhelmed, stressed, and (I think) usually have something hormonal going on. 

I think so long as its a very rare occurance no one will think poorly of you!

Post # 9
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Bostongrl25:  I’ve cried at work before, and I am a professional.  Don’t worry about it – people will forget it in a week.  If you sweep it under the rug and go about your business, so will your co-workers.

Post # 10
5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I cried at work once and a managing director gave me a hug. It was so awful at the time. Now I find it hilarious. As long as you aren’t one of those people who cry in the bathroom every day you won’t develop a reputation. Just take a lap and a deep breath and get back to normal.

Post # 11
1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i have. more than once. it’s embarrassing, but it just happens sometimes

Post # 13
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I know it feels horrible *now*, but it will be forgotten. I am a senior person at my company too and I have cried. In front of a room full of men. I was totally moritfied. The key is to pick yourself up and go on. It happens to a lot of people. It will be ok!

Post # 14
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

The worst was when I was first teaching and a group of kids made me cry.  It was AWFUL.  You’ll be fine, though.  Is there anything you can do make your day-to-day schedule easier?

Post # 15
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@Bostongrl25:  It happens to everyone at some point. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarassed about. You’re human and humans have emotions. Sometimes they manifest as tears – and, to be honest, I’d rather have someone cry than punch a wall or something.

Post # 16
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bostongrl25:  One of the hardest things is ‘showing weakness’ at work,  but then again, we are all human, and seeing someone in that light always humbles me.  I do not look at them as crazy, weak, or ‘less than’ for showing emotion. It actually reminds me that behind our professional facades there is a person whom has stress, personal things going on, or are not perfect every day!! 

I know my story would be MOST people’s reactions, but I was in a meeting at work with about 9-10 of our management team, including the OWNERS of the company, CFO, etc, etc, etc.  I had my phone on the table, sent to vibrate, and my mom – whom was really sick sent me a strong of illegible texts.  I responded to her asking if she was butt texting me, but then another illegible text would come thru.  I had a weird feeling, so I excused myself to call her quickly.  Her speech was slurred, and her sentences were illogical, but she got out she was ‘lost at the mall’.  My voice raised, as I was screaming to her to give me more info, knowing she was in trouble and that I believed she had a stroke.  I could feel all eyes on me thru those glass doors where the meeting was being held. 

Like a crazy person, I ran back into the meeting, screaming to her to ‘hold on..Im coming to find her…do not hang up!’ to grab my things and go.  I was hysterical, shaking and crying.  As I was running out the door, a co-worker in the meeting, followed me and asked for my keys.  She would drive me whereever I needed to go.  I have never felt so vulnerable or scared in my entire life. 

We found my mom, she – my driver – experiencing a moment in my life I will never forget, and me – not as an employee or co-worker, but as my mother’s daughter coming to her rescue…calling EMS, and having her drive me to the ER where my mom was being transported. 

To this day, I think about my actions or reactions at work in that moment, but for those that witnessed it, they applauded me, and stated they respected me more.  They had no clue my mom was so sick, because I ‘hid it’ for years…

SORRY THIS IS SO LONG!!!  Hang in there 🙂

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