Post # 1
Hi bees! I haven’t posted in a while because so far my wedding planning has been going smoothly thank goodness. Except for one thing…. My very dear friend who is supposed to be a bridesmaid still has not gotten her dress and I’m 44 days away from my wedding day! She said she was going to get it on the 19th but she didn’t, she said she was going to go this past Friday but she didn’t. I unfortunately don’t live close to her so I can’t show up at her apartment and be like hey lets go! I really don’t know how to approach the subject because I hate bringing things up with people. I know I just need to put on my big girl panties and talk to her about it. She is the nicest person ever and I’m trying not to have a cold heart towards but I’m getting really frustrated. I don’t want to hurt her feelings or ruin our friendship but I have no idea what to say to her. So what would you do if you were in my situation?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
Honestly, I would just be very upfront with her about it. Tell her that every bridesmaid is wearing that specific dress and if she doesn’t get it in time then she will be unable to be a bridesmaid. Simple as that, really, and include a couple bits about her being your good friend and you want her to be there so you hope she gets her dress. At the end of the day, no matter how nice she is, she needs to get her dress just like everyone else.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
Do you know her size? Can you order it for her?
Post # 5
@Future_Mrs_Naugle: Is it a specific dress that she is supposed to buy?
Or, is she just supposed to buy a dress within some guidelines?
Do you need to know for sure if she will still be a BM so you can finish programs etc?
If not, I would just assume that she will get a dress. if she does, she is BM.If she doesn’t she’s not.
Post # 6
Oh man, that is cutting it close. I would talk with her and let her know that it takes a while to come in. Maybe check to make sure she still wants to be a part of the wedding party-maybe something came up money wise or she is just feeling self conscious. there are ton of reasons maybe she put it off, so just ask! Good luck, I know I would be so awkward having this conversation, but I think you need to at this point:)
Post # 7
@Future_Mrs_Naugle: i think id say “sweetie, i love you but you not getting the dress is really stressing me out. i need you to get it this week please”. then…if she doesnt get it i guess ehs not a BM. if its off the rack at least it doesnt need time to be ordered
Post # 8
@newname_99: I do want to try and say something like this and I believe I will. Thank you. 🙂
Post # 9
@julies1949: yes it is a specific dress that I want her to get. I guess I just feel rude asking if its money related.
Post # 10
@LemonLavender: I don’t know her size but I am considering asking her and possibly ordering it for her.