I did something bad…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha. This has totally happened with DH and me. I hate surprises and we don’t tend to hide anything from each other, so any sort of surprise thing always backfires. Now we just tell each other what we’re going to do or say something is planned as long as the other person doesn’t nag and spoil the surprise. Technically, it’s still a surprise since you don’t really know what it is.

I’m sure whatever it is will be great!

Post # 5
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Rachel631:  I always plan my own birthday becuase I am a control freak and my Fiance isnt into smll details so he doesnt even bother lol I dont think you did anything wrong wither, you wanted a oarty he said he wasnt doing it so you did it yourself seems reasonable

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Haha, I would have done the same exact thing!


Post # 7
1503 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh man, I would have done the exact same thing that you did. He could have said something generic like “You have plans, You’ll just have to wait and see.”

My fiance plans surprises all of the time and he never tells me any details besides the date and time. I think that he’s over-reacting because giving you a time-frame of when not to be busy does not ruin the surprise. In fact, it gives you something to look forward to. Therefore, he should have just told you that you had plans, but not revealed any of the details.

Anyway, your pub crawl sounds amazing! Wish I could attend!

Post # 8
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Rachel631:  He could have handled that waaaaaay better. Yeah I get wanting it to be a surprise but it still technically is.

Doesn’t he know that women can’t just let things be?

Post # 10
2232 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Rachel631:  Oh the dangerous waters that men unwittingly tread, sometimes. Whatever you wind up doing, I hope you have a great time! 🙂

Post # 11
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

His bad for bringing it up again, don’t sweat it.  He’ll learn.

Post # 12
1634 posts
Bumble bee

I dont think you did anything wrong either! To be completely honest I would have done the EXACT same thing (including the girls night out) lol if he cant be bothered to plan something you specifically told him you wanted, why should he get to come? lol But my FI doesnt like parties, so it would be win-win in my case.

Post # 13
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

someone should write a book on how to surprise a woman. WE ALWAYS ruin it or figure it out because the guy does/says something to set us off or just plain give it away. If he had just told you you were having a party and got your friends in on it to cover for him then you never would have known there was a surprise. Seriously … boys! I don’t think you did anything wrong at all because you wanted a special birthday. I would have done the same exact thing.


Post # 15
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL dudes! He could have said “just don’t you worry your little head about it” or something somewhat sarcastic, and you would have gotten the hint. 

Oh well, just tell him you were mad beacuse you thought he didn’t care at ALL, and you will be happy to spend your b day with him and whatever he has planned. And then go and enjoy it! Happy almost birthday!

Post # 16
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Rachel631:  This is why I am just not one for surprises. I am too much of a planner and want to know what we are doing. I mean, surprises are ok, but I don’t know if this was a good surpise to keep.

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