- 5 years ago
I’ve been a lurker bee for months now and have found comfort and support in waiting bee posts by bees that are waiting to be asked THE question.
Little background: my SO and I have been together for 4.9 years and we are mid-20s. We both have a couple of years left before we qualify into our respective fields. We’re currently living at his parents until next August in a bid to save money so we can put a deposit down on a house. If we lived out, we’d be in debt as I am currently studying full time and the maintenance grant I get from my future firm wouldn’t cover both living and rent. Luckily SO is working and studying so we are managing without the burden of rent on one income.
Anyhow, introduction over, down to the crazy. I’ve been hit hard with wedding fever over the last few months. I think it’s a combination of being ready to make a lifetime commitment to my SO and living with his parents who have been happily married for 35 years that really makes me want to take the plunge. I also want the symbol of commitment and yes, something sparkly to adorn this neglected finger of mine 🙂
So instead of studying as hard as I should be, I find myself whiling away my time dreaming about what SO might say when he proposes, how we’d be married, how the rest of our lives would go… *dreamy sigh* so of course, I start lurking on wonderful websites like this, APW, theknot and of course, ringenvy.
So with a little ringenvy in my heart, I have done A LOT of research. You know the drill, cut, colour, clarity, cost, metals, shanks, settings, stones etc. and I have fallen in love with my dream e-ring.
So here is my crazy moment – I emailed not one, but two different jewellery designers in Dubai with specifications. They have emailed me back. I am keeping this charade going and wasting two people’s time because obviously, I have no intention of buying (this amazing but reasonably priced ring)!
I think a small/large part of me wanted SO to come across this carefully researched information and make the purchase and just propose already!
I am at least comforted by the fact that he has hinted that it might be by next summer but since being hit with wedding fever and an overdose of love every time I look at him, I am going crazy not seeing a ring on this finger. A little crazy that there isn’t a ring on his finger post future (fingers crossed) wedding. I just want to solidify our relationship but I do appreciate living at his parents and being tight financially until I start my job next year is putting a damper on things. He has picked up a lot of the slack that we would normally share whilst I study so I fully understand our financial burdens at the moment.
There is just a massive part of me that can’t wait to be his wife and for him to be my husband and get on with actually being together and forge a united life (I know we are together, but there is no bigger commitment than being husband and wife in my eyes). I have also decided to keep quiet now as we have discussed getting engaged and married and I really don’t want to nag or to put pressure on him – I want our future to unfold happily and naturally (not because I am having an impatient shrew moment. Or a shrewish few months, let’s not quibble.)
So to wrap this massively long post up, PLEASE tell me something as crazy or even better, crazier that you might have done whilst you are/were waiting.