I did use correct etiquette?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Nope, you sure don’t.  Let her rant, you’ve done nothing wrong.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m not sure what proper ettiquette says … But some of our friends are not getting a +1 either… We have a large group of friends that are very close and have been close for a long time. I figure the single people will have more fun partying with said group of close friends than they would bringing a date they have to entertain all night that doesn’t know anyone. We have a way too big guest list as is so we had no choice unfortunately! 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@redbootz:  You are absolutely in the right here!  I am dealing with a similar situation myself…I recently posted about a friend who replied with a plus one that she’s apparently been dating on and off, I told her “no, sorry, we don’t have the room” and she was ok with it.  Then three weeks later she sends my FI a message saying she’s with a new guy and “it’s getting pretty serious, would I be able to bring him to come meet you guys?” FOR REAL??!! There’s a time and a place to meet new boyfriends, I don’t think a wedding is one of them.  The only exception is if it is on my FI’s side of the family.

We ended up telling her we’ll check when the RSVPs come in to see if we have room for him, but we’re hoping they’ve fizzled out by now.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You are worrying about someone who is being incredibly rude and selfish.  One word: don’t.  

You are definitely NOT the bad guy in this situation.  You are not only within your rights to not give her a plus 1, I would tell you it would be a very bad idea to give her a plus 1.  Like you mentioned, 1. you aren’t going to know her fling, 2. it’s a fling, 3. your wedding is not a prelude to sex, which is what she’s trying to make it. 

I would also consider if this girl is really your friend. Everyone can have their selfish moments, but it this a trend for her?  If so, this is the kind of friend you should keep at arms’ length, if at all.  She knows other people at the wedding, she’ll be fine.  She’s trying to make this all about her.  

And also, to the friend who told you about her rant…bad form.  Drama is the last thing you need right now.  They should have defended you and told this girl to keep her mouth shut and not be to ungrateful, then kept it to themselves.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@redbootz:  Stop. You’re fine. You have not been rude or inconsiderate and you need not apologize to her or anyone else so don’t. 

Shame on the person who repeated her complaints to you! That person is a pot stirrer and if they come to you with any more gossip then I recommend you shut them down by telling them you don’t want to hear it. 

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