Post # 1
This is basically me just whining about my wedding. It was fun – but I didn’t feel exactly elegant or beautiful. First of all, I made the mistake of wearing heels when my Husband is my height, so I towered over him in my huge dress.
Secondly all the candid shots of me talking or visiting with friends, I have a HUGE double chin, I look very fat and just…yucky. I can see too that my skin was all red (probably from taking pictures in the sun) and -I am finally admitting it- my dress was not flattering AT all. It was sleevelss but had wide straps and made my arms look huge and my waist look very wide.
I now pretty much hate my wedding. I didn’t feel beautiful liek I should have and the photos reflect that. I looked huge next to my husband too. I just wish I could do a do-over with everything being different. I HATE 90% of the photos and cringe when i see them. Ugh. Any other brides feel this way after their wedding??
Post # 3
Yes! Hate so many of my pictures! I wore flats but all my bridesmaids wore heels and DH is 6’2 so I look like a midget!
I also think my arms look fat in lots of photos, and I have a double chin in lots too.
I am over it though- I can’t expect to look like a supermodel in photos when I don’t look like a supermodel.
Post # 4
@ellascissorhands: Ughh me too. I didn’t feel beautiful on our wedding day either. It sounds so silly when I say this but I felt so awkward without liquid eyeliner on. I asked the makeup artist to put it on because I ALWAYS wear liquid eyeliner and she didn’t. I didn’t realize it because I literally didn’t have any time to look in the mirror. And when I finally noticed it was too late and I felt like I looked horrible.
I also gained about 10 pounds before the wedding and I had back fat and a double chin in so many pictures. I looked so fat and I’m upset about it. I loved our wedding but some of the pictures are just so bad.
Post # 5
Awww I feel you. There are some wedding pictures that I like, but there are many that I would like except for my double chin, or my big arms, or my back fat weirdly showing because of the corset under my dress… Sigh. I just ignore those ones and focus on the ones that don’t show those aspects so much. I guess it helps that I did feel beautiful day of, so that helps temper some of my insecurities when I see the photos. Plus, everyone had an amazing time and kept commenting on how happy we looked. Were you happy day-of? Try to focus on that 🙂 I know it sucks though, to see so many negatives in what should be joyful photos.
Post # 6
@ellascissorhands: same here. i wish i did my hair different, changed my dress, other things too. your not alone! i also wish i went with a different photographer, mine was ave.
i think its cos were sooo hard on ourselves and scrutinise things that othes wouldnt even notice.
dont worry im sure to everyone else you looked absolutely stunning!
Post # 7
@ellascissorhands: I also have often wished that I could have a do-over of some of the things from my wedding, including my dress and some of my wedding photography. I understand why this is painful for you.
Someone already was kind enough to edit a half dozen of my pictures for me for free, just so that I could see her work, and that, in and of itself, has helped me to be happier with my photos. Eventually, I need to choose the photos that I want to have in an album and hire this person or someone else to do all of this photo-editing for me. Perhaps your photographer can edit some of your photos for you or at least grant his or her permission for someone else to do that for you.
One other thing to keep in mind: It is very likely that NO ONE else is or will be as critical of your wedding photos as you are. The people who saw my photos online commented on how photogenic my DH and I are and how wonderful my photos were.
Post # 8
@ellascissorhands: I now pretty much hate my wedding.
Your wedding isn’t about how you look–it’s about making a lifetime comitment to your husband! Just focus on being married and in love, and if you think you look huge next to your husband, then maybe work on a healthier lifestyle.
Post # 9
@ellascissorhands: Yikes… wish I hadnt seen this post…. I am always afraid that is how I will feel but had never met someone who didnt feel beautiful on her wedding day. Now that I think about it, it is natural that some might.
I’m terrified about my double chin that likes to come out in photos and also that I have large arms…
Brides, any advice? Other than toning up obvi
Post # 10
@HourThyme: it’s all about the diet
Post # 11
@ellascissorhands: will you share some pics? Maybe you’re just being hard on yourself!
Post # 12
@abigailelizabeth919: I know, I’ve been trying to eat better and exercise more. It’s just tough. I am the heaviest I have ever been, currently a size 8, which is not that big but bigger than I would like to be….
Post # 13
@HourThyme: size 8? I’m sure you look great!! My motivation to get ready for my wedding is that I want to be my most beautiful self on my wedding day. You only get married once(hopefully), just keep thinking that to stay motivated. Also, I’ve used My Fitness Pal for the last 7 months or so. You can track what you eat and how much you exercise in order to stay on track! It’s very helpful. I also think doing well 5-6 days a week and then splurging a little 1-2 days a week so you stay motivated really helps! Also alcohol is terrible! Haha. I only drink 1 day a week. Alcohol makes it really hard to lose weight! Ugh. Good luck!
Post # 15
Haha, I do love my alcohol… Love a beer or glass of wine to unwind..
I’ve used the LoseIt app before with great success! GOing to start doing that again and have started exercising again, right now just brief stops at the gym or runs with the dog. The FI and I signed up for bootcamp classes and I got a month of yoga classes. I have a history of an eating disorder that got pretty bad when I was in college so I’m always apprehensive and super worried about “dieting” right. Realisticall, I really would be thrilled if I lost 10-15 lbs, just gotta buckle down! 70 more days left before the wedding!
Post # 16
I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. And while I can’t tell you how to think or feel or even comment on your photos because I haven’t see them, I CAN tell you that you are your own worst critic. My SIL refuses to watch her wedding video. It actually makes her visibly angry. And I thought it was a beautiful ceremony and had I wonderful time; I thought she looked gorgeous! So while I understand that you’re down, please take a little comfort in knowing that no one is judging your photos harsher than you are.