I didn't get a ring! It was just a date to a concert.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@mimi11590:  Does he know that although you already live like a married couple that you actually want to get engaged and be married?  If not, maybe a discussion about it with him is in order.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@mimi11590:  Hugs to you!  Try to not get bitter about this.  First of all, how do you know he didn’t want to propose?  I’ve been checking out the proposal section of this blog, and I’ve read a lot of stories say that ‘he wanted to propose but got to nervous’ or the time wasn’t right or whatever.

 

I feel your pain though, and I hate it when this happens!!  My SO made this HUGE deal out of our 3 year anniversary a few weeks ago.  OMG he was wanting to book a fancy resturant, and really made me feel like he COULD maybe have something up his sleeve.  I knew it probably WASN’T going to happen but I had really hoped that maybe there would be a promise or discussion about it.  Anyway—we ended up going to get pizza instead (what?!?!  pizza!!!), but honestly I think that our fancy dinner at a pricey resturant was getting to darn built up and at the end of the day, relaxing with my SO and some pizza just seemed like more fun and less stress.

 

 

 

Hang in there!!!  Don’t get bitter!!  It’ll happen when the time is right 🙂

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@beachbride1216:  +1.

Also, I would just stop and smell the roses so to speak. Each phase of life is exciting. Enjoy being a girfriend, fiancee, and wife. There is something to be said about each stage. I think your surprise sounds really sweet and I am glad that you didn’t show him that you weren’t grateful.

Post # 7
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Guys can be pretty dense. I would have lost it, I am pretty sure!

Good for you for holding it together, though. I mean yeah it was a sweet surprise, but the build-up seemed like overkill to me. Did you mention at all that you were expecting a proposal?

Post # 8
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@mimi11590:  Then tell him.  I love you and I would like for us to be married by X date and/or I would prefer not to have any more children until we are married.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@veryberry13:  +1

Nerves can really get to people, and concerts can add a bit of stress.  My FI originally wanted to propose at a music festival that we go to every year.  I had a hunch that he wanted to do it at the festival last year, but then some of our friends decided to unexpectedly tag along on the trip and FI couldn’t decide on a ring in time.  I was a little sad that it didn’t happen, but that’s life.  He proposed a month later at our home and it was perfect.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@beachbride1216:  +1

Be direct.  At this point, it’s up to you to set an ultimatum, especially if you won’t be able to enjoy any future surprises if they don’t turn out to be a ring.

Post # 11
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

What concert was it?

Post # 12
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh, no! That BLOWS! Have you had the timeline talk?

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