(Closed) i didn’t get some of the most important wedding photos i wanted :(

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I actually have some pictures I didn’t get that I wanted too.  We were running late so we don’t have all the pictures around the park that I wanted and actually, there aren’t any posed pictures of just me and my husband after the ceremony.  Also, there’s no picture of my dress although she tried because the wall she was about to use had moss on it and she didn’t want to ruin it.  I know there were probably others and this bothers me sometimes but every time it does, I just look at the pictures we do have and it makes me happy. It makes me happy to look through the pictures and relive the whole day through them.  Hopefully that helps a little at least. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Was there a reason everything ran late? From a photographers perspective it is SO frustrating when you have a list of shots you want/need to get and basically everything runs so late that you have to prioritize and get the most crucial but don’t get the chance to get everything you want. By the time you guys got back for dinner were the guest already at the tables? Maybe there wasn’t a chance to get a full table shot before the guests took them over and messed them up?

I’m not a huge fan of lists that say things like first kiss, bride and groom together. But it is a good idea to give your photog a list of maybe the 10 most important things to you.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry about your missed shots.

There are some really important shots that we are missing from our photographer too. Apparently, they lost some of the photos and can’t find them. A few of the shots we are missing are me walking up the aisle with my son, my son passing me off to my husband, our first kiss, and the first look when my husband sees me. We have gotten the first look shot from one of our guests and I am including a note in our thank you notes requesting pictures from our guests. I think 99% of our guests had cameras, so we are hopeful. And I did give her a list. I am devasted and cry about this a lot, but there is no going back for a do over, so I am just going to have to try to get over it. I am sorry that I don’t really have any real advice for you. I think it will just take time… On the bright side though, we did get a lot of other great shots.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know how you feel… I LOVE my photos and i LOVED the day… but then i think “oh damn… i didn’t get photos of my husband and his kids by themselves… or as many photos of just my husband by himself or a photo of me with my stepchildren” but then i have to remind myself that it’s ok… it doesn’t matter.

But i know you had much more of a planned organised wedding, mine was just us, the kids and my brother and his brother and a celebrant… thats it!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m sorry you didn’t get some of the shots you wanted. That’s always disappointing. There were some shots that our photographer didn’t get either…  I hope you find a way to love the pictures you have even though you’re missing a few that you wanted. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I understand where you’re coming from on this.  In my case, my photographer was a personal friend I’ve known for  years.  She used to work as a wedding photographer and also worked professionally as a photographer (for the government!) and made her living doing both but in recent years, she had switched to a desk job and had a baby and had gotten out of photography beyond doing it as a hobby.  So she was wanting to get back into the swing of things, and she’d done portraits of my kids several times… I never doubted her talent.  she is truly gifted. 

She also shot the wedding for practically nothing.  We were married out of state and she only asked that we pay for her plane ticket and a little extra cash payment.  Truly a steal.

So, I am thrilled with the photos we DID get but I really wish there were more.  There are none of my pink crinoline at all and there were, tragically, 3 rolls of film that she took with the regular camera that came out blank! Cry  She did take a ton with the digital camera and I love those but I am still very sad about the lost ones.  And there are hardly any of the reception aside from the cake cutting.. almost none of the guests (we didn’t have a first dance or anything, it was just a dinner reception)..

One thing we are going to do is a “day after” (though it will be months in actuality) shoot of me and my wife back in our wedding attire, somewhere gorgeous and outdoors here in town, since our photographer lives an hour away.  She’s offered to do this free of charge since she feels awful about the blank film also.   Then, we are having an “at home” reception here at a friends house and hopefully we’ll get some good pics from that, and we hope to include some of the missing elements (1st dance, toasts, etc) and have a whole new wedding cake too. πŸ™‚  Since you are also having a similar reception, you should be able to get some great pics that way!  And totally put your dress back on if you want to!  I am getting a different dress for the at-home reception but only because I need to sell my dress to pay for the at home reception. lol.

But yeah, I am still sad.  I try and console myself with thoughts of what kind of pics our mothers and their mothers had for their weddings.  You know, very often there were just a handful of photos and all very posed and formal!  So the younger generations (well, I’m almost 40 but whatever) have it much better!

And really, whatever photos you can “re-create” will not allow you to go back in time, BUT I bet that years down the road they will all seem just as special as those that were actually taken on  THE day.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@noritake22:  Oh no!  I am so sad for you, I was worrying about this when you were talking about the delay in getting your pics.

Hopefully there are some great guest shots.  I was pleasantly surprised with many photos that a friend of my wife’s took, some almost as good as the pro shots.. and she captured some of the same moments but from a different angle.  Hope this is the case for you!!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@dynamic_duo:  Yeah we are supposed to do the “day after” style shoot very soon, in our original attire, so I can sell the dress soon… and also it is already crazy hot here so it is going to suck a little to do outdoorsy pics!  Hope your re-creating works well for you!

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