Post # 1
I hired a Day of Coordinator for my wedding and she is also taking care of the flowers (silk flower arrangements, bouquets, etc). We discussed what I wanted for the cermony decor and I sent her pictures. She ordered the flowers and I paid her. We spoke more on the decor and she determined that what I wanted may cost a bit more because she had to order more flowers. I said that was fine and I paid her the extra.
I had a conversation with her over the weekend regarding final items and the tasks I need to assign to family and the bridal party. She mentioned that I’ll need someone to collect the flowers sometime that night and return to her. It took a while for what she said to sink in so I emailed her. Her response was that if I want to keep them that is something we can discuss but she hadn’t planned on me keeping the flowers. The reason she’s able to charge a minimal amount is because she keeps all of the arrangements that she makes for future rentals.
She never mentioned that the flowers were ‘rentals’. I didn’t ask either. I just assumed I was paying for the flowers (to keep). I guess that was wrong on my part – never assume. As my band instructor used to say: Assuming makes and A** out of you and me!
I’ve never been married or planned a wedding so I don’t know how these things usually work. Is this typical?
Post # 2
The flower arrangements should be yours to keep (at least in my experience). Anything you didn’t purchase or rent (vases, etc) are the florists. I would have assumed the same as you…It’s also kind of odd that your flowers are being re-used for other events (I have NEVER heard of this)…Are you sure she’s not re-using flowers for your event from someone else’s? I would aks these questions.
Post # 3
MrsDavistobe: We recently enquired about a wedding arch rental, a bare rental would be around £100 but with fresh flower arrangement it went up to £250…we were going to go ahead until they mentioned that the arch AND fresh flowers would be taken away after our ceremony!? Seriously, we’re not paying extra for flowers only for them to be taken away(most likely to the wedding after ours!)I can’t believe the cheek!
Post # 4
We are renting stems of fake cherry blossoms from our florist (in addition to rental containers and fresh flowers), but it clearly stated on our contract that these are rentals. I’m not sure what I would’ve expected in your situation, but seems like the contract should call it out.
Post # 5
that’s absurd. you’re buying the flowers. Flowers aren’t like movies and this isn’t like blockbuster. if she meant that you had to return everything, she should have been WAY more specific. I agree with Jen, if they’re rentals the contract needs to clearly state that they’re rentals. I doubt you just “missed” that piece of info.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t say it’s typical, but how much is she charging? If you’re paying the full amount for the product AND paying her to arrange them, I think you’re getting screwed.
Post # 7
This is not typical but it makes sense that a DoC can offer more attractive prices and increase customer interest if she can offer multiple services at a savings, and if she is able to re-purpose the flowers and use them for multiple events, that definitely keeps costs down.
I would start by looking at what your contract says regarding the flowers. If it is not expressly stated in the contract, how does her pricing compare to if you had bought the flowers from an independent vendor instead of through her? If the price is significantly lower then that may be your clue that these flowers were not meant to be yours to keep.
Post # 8
It depends on the wording of your contract. They may very well be hers to keep if the wording in the contract says so, but one would think the pricing would reflect that you are renting, not buying.
Post # 9
MrsDavistobe: I haven’t heard of this, but I don’t know alot about silk flowers anyway.. Did you have plans for the flowers afterwards? Personally, I could be ok with it depending on the total price and such.. If she is renting them to you they should be at least half of retail costs for me to feel good about it (assuming they are brand new & not re-used from another event)… Also, I would drop a line to her about perhaps clarifying that on her future contracts to avoice confusion…
Post # 10
Agree with PP, take a look at your contract and see if it specific anything about the flowers. Were her prices pretty cheap/reasonable?
what were you planning on doing with the flowers after your wedding?
Post # 11
I’m at work so of course my contract is on my computer at home! I’m going to reveiw as soon as I can.
Maybe if I knew upfront that these were rentals I wouldn’t be so “upset” or caught off guard nor would I have gotten the corsages and bouts from her. How awakward is that to round everyone up at the end of the night to ask for their coursages and boutinneres back? Maybe it’s not a big deal. I just received her response so some of my frustration is just my inital emotions! 🙂
I wanted to keep my bouquet for a memento and a couple of my bridesmaids wanted to keep theirs as well. I don’t necessarily want/need the ceremony flowers.
Thanks for the advice everyone. I’ll do a comparison between typical cost of flowers. I hope I’m not paying the full cost of the flowers. Maybe if I see a big difference in the price I’ll calm down a little! I just feel bindsided that this wasn’t mentioned before. She specifically told me that she needed to order the flowers and gave me a price to pay. Of well, not the end of the world!
Post # 12
BeckyS0: Our Planner/Venue Owner/DoC will be keeping a lot of our decorations. ANything we purchase through her is hers to keep (unless we specify otherwise) anything we purchase ourselves is ours. The other side of this is that we are able to choose from a lot of stuff she already has from other weddings at no cost. For us it is all little stuff, so it works out, we are saving a ton on using vases, and decorations she already has, these savings far outweigh what we could get reselling the stuff we are buying. So we don’t save 50% off retail on the stuff she is buying, but we do get some discount over what we have found for quotes, and we have also are seriously benefitting from he letting us raid her stock. From our first meeting with her she went though my FIs (the bride) Pinterest page with her, and picked out quite a few things that she had saved from previous weddings that we could reuse at no cost. <br /><br />
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
If your contract doesn’t show it, I’d ask her (in writing) for copies of the flower invoices. (Not receipts from her, but from the company where she bought them). If you get the invoices and they are dollar-for-dollar what you’ve spent, I’d send her an email to explain that you plan to have a bridesmaid/mother/friend pack up the flowers you bought at the end of the night. If it’s a big difference in what she paid and what she charged you, then I’d consider it a rental. It might be worth asking her what it would cost for you to take your bouquet home vs renting it.
Post # 14
wvlefty: That’s a good point to ask for the invoices vs. what she paid. Thanks for that advice.
Post # 15
I would have been totally put off by this too but after thinking about it, two questions popped into my head: 1) Did she get an industry discount on the flowers? That could be influencing how she’s viewing this vs you (though, if that’s the case she really should have explained it better) and 2) Did she only charge you for supplies? The arranging is a skill and something you’d normally pay a florist or someone else for so maybe she’s seeing it as getting to keep the arrangements is “payment” for the time spent arranging? Again, that absolutely should have been made clear to you way before anything was purchased but maybe that’s where she’s coming from?