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I don't get this!! Im not one to judge but it's astonishing to think you could go that long and not know! I would be so worried about the babies health! 

I knew a woman who didn't know until she was 5 months pregnant, and she only found out then because she was in a minor car accident and needed an x-ray.  Of course hospitals typically do pregnancy tests on women of the right age who need x-rays, and that's how they found out.

But yeah, some of those stories are crazy!  I mean, there are some where the person is on a medication which would explain their lack of period, or where the woman thought she had gone through menopause, but then there are the totally weird ones where the women are like "Well I didn't get my period for nine months and I gained a bunch of weight and I felt something moving around in my stomach, but I didn't think I was pregnant!" Really?

The craziest one was where the women stopped getting her period, and she said she just thought she must have cancer.  As if it was perfectly normal to just assume you have cancer, and then not go to the doctor to find out for sure, what sort of treatments you might do, etc. 

I was raped after I graduated high school. I was at some party with a bunch of people I didn't know (which in hindsight was a terribly awful decision). I either drank too much or I really don't know what happened. I basically remember about 30 min of that night. I came to at some point with some flippin dude on top of me, but hoenstly that is the ONLY thing I remember. I was a virgin when this happened, so it's not like I slept with alot of people. I only told two people, my best friend and my friend Luke. My best friend convinced me I was okay cause I had what I THOUGHT was my period a week or so later. Turns out it wasn't my period. No, I did not have periods while I was pregnant, but this really wasn't uncommon for me. I was super into sports when I was in high school and not having a period every month was not new to me. I convinced myself in my head that I wasn't pregnant. I gained maybe 10lbs, never had to buy a new pair of jeans or anything. I think it was a huge mental thing for me, I didn't want to admit to myself or other people that I had been raped.

 I moved out of my mom's house and didn't talk to her for atleast 6 months.  I started dating a guy (now my FI) when I was about 6 months along and we did have sex together. I had told him what happened and he really respected my boundaries. I mean come on a guy who saw me naked didn't even know I was pregnant. I lived with my best friend, her sister, and her mom, who was a labor and delivery nurse, NONE of them even suspected it. Sometimes I did have weird stomach sensations, and to someone who doesn't think they are pregnant YES IT DOES FEEL LIKE GAS. If you aren't suspecting a baby to be kicking inside your belly how the heck would you automatically assume it was a baby?

 Anyways fast forward 3 monts I was at my FI (boyfriend at the time) and woke up one morning in the worst pain ever. I thought I was literally going to die from cramps. WOOPS they were contractions lol. Nate finally woke up to head to work and decided to take me to the ER at the hospital I now work at. They tried to get me to pee in a cup, do you know how effing hard it is to pee in a cup when you are having contractions. The nurse was asking Nate if we were intimate and said yes, they assumed I was having a premature baby when finally it was like my whole world opened up and I told them I thought I was going to have a baby.

My daughter was born 30 minutes later (without an epidural or anything) and the FIRST thought in my head, was wow I truly screwed that innoncent child. I thought she was going to have 12 toes or fingers and I couldn't even bear to hear her cry. Nate finally called my mom and she came and they brought Peyton in to me. I knew as soon as I saw her I counted all her fingers and toes and thanked God. Nate left the hospital and I told him he didn't have to come back, he had no obligations to me and the baby, but he did. Peyton calls Nate Dad, it's all she has ever known him as. i know one day I will have to tell Peyton her story, and it won't be an easy one. We are now getting married and my little Peyton is 2 years old. I don't think anyone will ever be able to tell me that miracles don't happen because she is living breathing proof.

This turned into a really long story, but basically my point is MENTALLY I couldn't deal with the thought of me being pregnant, I didn't physically look it or feel it. So I just want to say alot of you have said really judgemental things about some of those women, and myself, and I hope you rethink how you view the situation. I am honestly a little offended by some of the comments that have been made. It is so easy to say "i would have done this" or  say how "unaware some women are of their bodies" when you have NOT been in the situation.

I think yes sometimes some people are JUST PLAIN CLUELESS, but then there are other people who really just didn't know or don't have the strength mentally to deal with it. I don't expect people to walk on eggshells around me, in fact it is a running joke in my family, I am not allowed to be sick or want to have a serious talk with someone without them thinking im preggo haha. I think people should just think before they say something, sometimes what you say can be incredibly painful to another person.

and yes I saw that show before that happened to me and I also thought the same thing and thought those women were off of their rockers, talk about putting your foot in your mouth huh!

@fontgoddess: You are exactly right, I was dealing with it all on my own and it made me loopy :) I appreciate what you said, I just thought I would offer a different POV.

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