(Closed) I didn’t mention ‘cash bar’ in our invitations!

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is cash bar the norm in your area? If your guests are going to assume they are paying for the bar then I see no need to worry. And the only reason I’m asking this is because another bride I know from Alberta was worrying about this and found out that toonie is actually the norm for her area. So if people are expecting to pay then no worries. If they’re not I think you should let them know; whether there is a atm nearby or not.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you have everyone’s email address, add them to a distribution list for your website and make sure it’s mentioned on your first page in a very nonchalant manner. Word will spread from mouth by there, especially since you sent your invites out early.

One thing I’ve seen a lot of is an open bar for beer and/or wine but a cash bar for everything else. I was really surprised to see this, but it went over really nice! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Gosh, you know–I’m not sure I’ve ever seen an invite that specified what kind of bar it is. I always just assume it will be cash and then if I’m pleasantly surprised with open beer/wine or a full open bar, so much the better. But that’s in Missouri, Nebraska where I’ve seen the full gamut of bar options at weddings.

I would just spread the news by word of mouth myself and have your wedding party/relatives mention it casually in passing if it comes up with your guests.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I don’t think it’s t*cky at all!!  I think it’s a smart choice.

I would spread word via e-mail and your website.  Calling people is too much, but casually letting them know (in the same way you would put out your registry info) will give the right impression.  If there’s an ATM really close, don’t even worry about it!  As a guest, I would just head over to the ATM, and wouldn’t give it a second thought!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Agreed, I wouldn’t worry!! 🙂 It’ll work out fine.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’ve been to a cash bar wedding where they didn’t say anything on invites- they spread the word through word of mouth among friends, as the young people were really the only people who would probably need to know this in advance. also one really nice thing that you may want to consider if your budget allows was that at that wedding, drinks were "free" (i.e., covered by b&g) for the wedding party and the WP’s dates. I thought that was nice (esp cuz my FI was in the wedding!)

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

If it’s the norm in your area, I think you should be fine. OTOH, I wouldn’t ever expect a cash bar and never have cash, so we’d be screwed. LOL I think you shouldn’t worry. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’m sure that people don’t care as much.  They just want to be there to see the bride and groom get married.  I wouldn’t worry about it too much.  We only included that ours would have premium open bar because they gave us an amazing discount and cut a lot of costs for us for having it on a Sunday morning and we were afraid that no one would come which is why we put it there. 

If you’re really worried about it, generate a website and include that information in it and email your family and friends so that they can view what will be included at the reception.  I created a simple website that cost $5 a month through http://www.godaddy.com which includes our menu and information on what’s included as far as alcohol is concerned.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I live on the East Coast for Canada and having a cash bar is the norm. No one I know has ever been to or heard of a wedding that wasn’t a cash bar, so if it’s norm for your area then I personally wouldn’t mention anything because people would already assume that is what it was. If it was a cheaper bar or an open bar, they will be even happier at the surprise!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Cash bars are the norm around here, and the one time that I showed up to a wedding that had an open bar, I thought "cool" and partied on.  I would never think twice about having to be "cash prepared" for a wedding.  You never know…

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Can you put it on your website or something?  I have never been to a cash bar wedding and it is definitely not the norm for my circle of friends or my area.  I would definitely be taken aback if I showed up at a wedding with a cash bar.  I usually only take my id, my camera, and lip gloss to a wedding cuz I don’t like leaving my purse with money or cc in it on some random table all night long while I dance and mingle.  So I would definitely be screwed!  I wouldn’t even have my atm card with me to use it!  But like pp if its the norm for your area I wouldn’t worry about it too much!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No worries that is a cash bar, but I would suggest letting people know via word of mouth and a wedding website/email blast in a nonchalant way.

I very much disagree with <font size=”2″ color=”#81a026″>hhcheung2000</font>, people WILL notice and care — but not necessarily in a negative way just in an awkward way. I was at a wedding last night and between the ceremony and the reception people headed right up to the bar. It was cash bar until 5:30 (the ceremony was done at 5 but it wasn’t vocalized that the bar would turn open in a half hour). It was… awkward. Everyone was muttering "it’s open bar? I don’t have cash for drinks and a tip!" my parents and I were combining our cash so we could get drinks as well as leave a tip. At another wedding I went to it was cash bar except for bad beer and wine. No one had a clue and again it was awkward.

I don’t have a severely big issue was a cash bar (I understand sometimes it is necessary), but I do take issue with not knowing. If you anticipate your guests to drink, some sort of notice would be helpful so they have more than just tip money. The only exception to this is if it is the "norm" in your area.

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