Post # 1
I didn’t think dress regret would happen to me. Although, I’ve been fearing it. I bought the dress almost 4 months ago. The dress I tried on was a size 12 (i’m a 0) and I STILL teared up when I looked in the mirror. I mean… I cried I loved it so much. My dress doesn’t come in until August. I keep seeing these sweet/ gorgeous dresses online and then I look at the picture of my dress and its so… meh. The internet is toxic.
Do people have dress regret and then get their actual dress and forget about the regret? Or will this dress regret stick with me? I fear the unknown…
I feel like if I saw this dress on a real bride, I might feel a little better. It’s Jim Hjelm Blush 1061 from Fall 2010. Do I have any dress twins?
Anyway… I know you’re all wondering so here’s a photo. (I’m standing on a tall pedestal. I’m actually 5’2″ not that it matters.)
Post # 3
@nolabee39: I mean… I cried I loved it so much
that’s all you need to remember
I think we all go thru it. But you chose your dress for a reason.
Stop looking at other dresses Your dress is definitely not “meh”
Post # 4
That dress is stunning! Seriously beautiful. I would be willing to bet that once you put it on again your dress regret will go away. I had a little bit of worry waiting for my dress to come in and only getting to look at the pics of the oversized dress on me for 5 months; but when I put on my dress all my doubts went away.
Post # 5
Thats a beautiful dress!
I too, stalk internet dresses. Its bad news. I have a white dress, and every time I see a very deep ivory or oatmeal or pale pink, I get a bit weak in the knees.
Once I went in for alterations, though, and the dress fit me properly, I felt a billion times better. I love it again.
Post # 6
stop looking at other dresses. you went with the one you have because there was just something about it that others didn’t 🙂
Post # 7
Your dress is beautiful! and you know you love it. STOP LOOKING AT DRESSES ONLINE. avoid, avoid, avoid
Post # 8
That back V with your tiny waist will be AMAZING! I also really love the color and lace detail! I think once it is in your size you will love it. Wait and see.
Post # 9
OMG your dress is beautiful. STOP LOOKING! When the dress comes in in YOUR size, you’ll remember why you fell in love with it. I first tried on a size 14 sample, and I’m a 2. It SUCKED not being able to picture *my* dress, but keep looking at your own pictures and remembering how you felt with it on.
Post # 10
@GroovyHippieChick: I second that. You cried you loved it so much. remember that.
And I really think if you bought a dress already, don’t look. You will always find another dress, newer/prettier, than yours. Unless you have money and time to go through dress shopping again, I say don’t look. That’s one of the reasons I usually don’t look at dress post here so I don’t get any new ideas. And I gotta say, so far I have no dress regrets.
I love your dress btw 🙂
Post # 11
sigh… thanks, you guys are really awesome. i needed that. i teared up reading all the posts (in a good way).
i’m a little emotional – it’s that time of the month.
Post # 12
@nolabee39: Your dress is beautiful! It is so elegant. You knew when you tried it that it was exactly right for you.
Instead of looking at other dresses (hard to do, I know), maybe change your wedding porn over to veils, shoes, jewelry, etc, and think about how to accessorize this beauty.
If you want a totally nerdy take on dress regret, there’s a book I read a few years back called The Paradox of Choice (I think the author was Barry Swartz or Schwartz) that talks about how seeing a wide range of options seems like it should increase consumer satisfaction (because with so many options, everyone should be able to find “exactly the right one” to suit them), but in reality it tends to increase dissatisfaction because people start second-guessing themselves and wondering if there’s something better out there than what they chose. This, in a nutshell, is dress regret!
The key is to consciously limit your range of options (i.e “I know I want (lace) (only white) (something that isn’t strapless) (whatever), so even though there are lots of gorgeous (satin) (ivory) (strapless) gowns out there, I can appreciate them but I know they’re not for me.” And then be delighted with the one you choose – which you clearly were when it brought you to tears! I’m confident that you’re going to be thrilled with your dress when you get it, and you’ll be happy with your choice.
Post # 13
I think it’s beautiful and honestly, I wish I could have pulled it off! I had dress regret, too, until my first fitting!!! Give it a shot!
Post # 14
GIRL LOOKA YOU! It’s beautiful! And Mae Me? HELL YEAH!
Post # 15
You are not alone, this happens to everyone, mostly because they keep looking at dresses after they’ve chosen their dress. My advice STOP looking at other dresses 🙂 It will make you feel a lot better.
Post # 16
First of all, you look AMAZING!!
Second, my 2 year old daughter was sitting here with me as I opened this thread and when she saw your picture, said, “Oh Mommy! She’s bootiful!!”
So there you go, lol. All the confirmation you need!