I do not want FI's sister in law at wedding

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Well, if it’s that bad and you invite her, will she even really accept? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Just a thought- a friend of mine had a huge falling out with her SIL. My friend was getting married, and her brother was in the party, and even walking my friend down the aisle, but his wife stayed home due to the falling out. It’s possible!

I’d say invite her, be the bigger person. Let her make an excuse and not show or be a jerk if she does show. At least you didn’t stoop to her level 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

The problem is that if you don’t invite her, you run the risk of causing a rift between your FI and his brother. I don’t know what she did to you but I would strongly consider trying to put it aside for the sake of your FI. 

Also you then get to be the bigger person and that’s always good. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@2beemrs:  In that case, I would say invite her to keep the peace. Plus it would be really awkward to say to your future brother-in-law: “Oh hey, best man. Would be great if you could tell your missus to stay at home for the wedding…”

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Invite her. I don’t get along with FBIL’s wife either…I reeeeally dislike her and she makes it pretty clear that the feeling is mutual. They let us know about 8 months from the wedding that they weren’t going to be able to make it.

If you don’t invite her there will definitely be more drama. If you do invite her, she’ll either decline or hang in the background at the wedding. It shouldn’t be too bad if she shows up…it’s not like you have to entertain her!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Well it’s your FI’s wedding too and he wants and has every right to want his brother’s wife there.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@2beemrs:  Sorry dear. Ain’t nothing you can do about that. She’s married to your future husband’s brother. She is your family whether you like it or not. There is nothing to “do” except invite her and spend as little time with her as possible. 

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