Post # 1
So, my fiancé and I are planning our June 2013 wedding right now. We have been toying with an idea of moving out of state not too long after wedding, maybe a month. We have our reasons: better job market, more culture, closer to school (for me) and some much needed healthy distance from our overbearing families.
Weaware not intending on moving when we got engaged or when we started planning, but the more we talk about it and think about it, the more excited and sure about it we get! We really would like to take this opportunity and start establishing ourselves as our own family unit.
So bees, my question is, what is your opinion? Especially so close to the wedding date. Would it seem tacky to have our wedding and then just leave?
Post # 3
No, I don’t think it’s tacky in any way. You’ve gotta do what’s best for your lives.
Post # 4
Definitely not tacky. My Fiance & I are thinking about moving out of state after the wedding as well.
Post # 5
I like the idea, personally. My Fiance and I have lived together for a while and are moving the week before the wedding. I like the idea of such a big change to make it feel more “real” and “married”
Post # 6
I don’t think there is any rule thast says you must reside in your state of marriage for a certain period of time after the wedding 🙂
Post # 7
I know. I just meant it more as I don’t want people to think that we are taking their gifts and money and bailing out on everyone.
Post # 8
How is that tacky?? You have to do what is best for your lives moving forward. And sometimes that is moving.
Post # 9
A Wedding Ceremony joins the two of you as one (I will go where he / she goes*) in life.
* Genisis 2:24 – Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
A Wedding Reception is a chance for friends to come together and celebrate that union, joyous beginning. They bring you gifts so you can more “easily start your NEW Life Together as a couple”
Therefore, it is their well wishes that they have given you to move onto your ADULT life as a couple with
Many couples, marry, and as part of that joining together of lives and households, find themselves moving away (usually the Bride to the locale where the Groom lives / works etc). It has been so for eons.
So no no one will think bad of you… they will just see it as part of the cycle of life… you growing up and moving on (literally in this case)
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
@Miss Grape: I don’t think people would look at it that way at all! If you are worried at all, just make sure to put in lots of effort to keep in touch with your friends and family after you move 🙂
Post # 11
and obviously make sure you file your license after the ceremony!
Post # 12
No not at all! I would start hinting into people that you two have reasons why you are thinking about moving such as school and other opportunities that way it won’t be a huge surprise to everyone.
Post # 13
Thank you ladies! We feel a lot better about this *possible*move!!!
Post # 14
I’m sure people would rather you do that than move beforehand and them have to travel further for your wedding. A wedding is after all a good starting off point for your futures together, wherever that is. Good luck with your move!
Post # 15
I can’t imagine anyone seeing it like that. Plenty of people have weddings out of state from where they live already and no one thinks anything of them leaving right after.
Post # 16
@Miss Grape: Not tacky at all! Go for it!