Post # 1
I just finished putting together the first draft of our ceremony (with the help of some samples sent over by our officiant)… OMG I read one of the samples and cried my eyes out, it was the most beautiful thing I had ever read! So with a little cutting and pasting with another sample I loved and pasted in some “traditional” (or my take on traditional) pieces and I think I have a work of art!
The hardest part I had was deciding on whether to do repeat vows (after our short personal vows) or the “i do” type vows… so I thought it might be interesting to see what everyone else did… 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t care for personal vows or repeat vows. “I do,” kissy kissy, and then time for food and dancing!
Post # 4
We repeated the traditional vows only. I just felt like I needed to Say the words to feel them not just agree. My husband and I aren’t super emotional people though so I was actually hoping it might amp it up a little since I definitely wasn’t worried about bawling.
Post # 5
We wrote our own that we repeated after the pastor. I wish we had done i dos as well.
Post # 6
We had an “I do” portion and a “repeat” portion….. not the traditional but still same format =)
Post # 7
I much prefer saying the actual words. Otherwise, it seems like you are making a promise to the officiant, rather than each other.
Post # 8
I just started thinking about this recently, too, trying to figure out which kind we’ll do. I think I prefer the repeat vows, because I like the idea of actually saying the words. (Could you put any less effort into something than listening to one guy list off all the promises and basically just responding, “Yup”?) 😛
Post # 9
We did all three! And the whole ceremony lasted probably 20 minutes.
1) Personal vows
2) I Dos
3) Repeat after me (for ring exchange)
Post # 10
@pengoala: this is exactly what i want to do too!
Post # 11
I haven’t decided what we’re going to do yet but considering the ceremony will be in danish (which is my 2nd language), I think I’ll want to take the easy route and just say “ja” 🙂
Post # 12
we were watching TLC’s Four Weddings several months ago, when FH asked in a leading kind of way if I really wanted personal vows more than “I do”.
I said it wasn’t important either way.
He sighed in releif, and asked if we could just do the “I do”, because, and I quote, “no one likes to hear a grown man’s voice crack as he cries”.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We’re doing the “I Do” and then repeated vows (:
Post # 14
@pengoala: that’s exactly what I decided to do, it made the most sense, we say the words that mean the most to eachother, then say “i do’s” because I feel like that is important to me, then we repeat the ring thing… 🙂 It’s like the best combination of all of them. 🙂
Post # 15
I chose “other” because we actually didn’t saw vows at all! We had a Greek Orthodox ceremony, and in those the bride and groom don’t say anything. It worked well for us because we’re both shy and nervous. It didn’t feel any less real though.
Post # 16
I agree with @pengoala: personal vows, I do’s and them repeat after me for rings. Shouldn’t take that long to do it that way.