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We did the same thing. I didn't want to, but the people I work with were like...we see you everday, just hand it to us and then my FI refused to mail his because he didnt want to get addresses. Haven't quite figured out the thank you note situation with that yet lol
lol ESPECIALLY if his coworkers are guys, they'll never realize. i might have FI give one of his coworkers his STD because we cant get the guy's address. annoying. lol
It's not tacky. Hand delivering is a preferred method.
I really don't think most people would mind... my FI and his family insisted on having his parents hand-deliver most of the invites to the family and friends that live where they live (which is pretty far from where we live, so we couldn't deliver them ourselves). No one took any offense to that, and I know some people thought it was sweet that they took the time to bring them personally.
I only invited two people from my office, and I brought them their invites. They were very happy to be invited and I'm sure they weren't offended that I didn't mail the invitations!
I think a lot of what we all think is expected, or what some people might think is tacky, is generally a matter of opinion! If you don't like the idea, then definitely mail them. If you don't mind and don't think you're going to offend anyone, I say do whatever works for you!
We did mail one to his female co-worker, but I think the rest we will hand out! I'm not mailing them to our parents either! I work with mine, I'll give it to them! I'm not even giving one to my brother LOL I just showed it to him today and asked what he wants for dinner. LOL $1.56!!! Bloody hell! LOL
What is it with guys not wanted to get addresses! FH's friends didnt ge STD's b/c he wouldnt get addresses!
We passed out a handful of our invitations, and a lot of people told us they would rather us just hand deliver them so that we could visit with them for a little bit. Same with some of the RSVP cards, even though we put postage on them, atleast 10 people have hand delivered them back to us, and most of the people we work with just brought them in to give back to us.
We hand delivered about 12 of our invites to our co-workers, don't sweat it.
I hand delivered some invites to family but mailed the rest. If I mail the invites, I at least know that they got to that person's house. If a give someone an invite when I see them out and about somewhere..who knows where it will end up.
I think it takes more effort to deliver them by hand, so I actually think it is more thoughtful, and not tacky at all! It's just a side benefit that it is cheaper :-)
my old boss handed me an invite to her wedding at work. i didn't think anything of it.
A lot of people told me to just hand deliver their invites, but I opted to mail them. I kind of wish I did - since the post office was not so delicate in their handling of the invites and a lot of them were worse for the wear (and they were pocketfolds, so you'd think they'd be more durable!).
We recently got a wedding invite hand-delivered - I figured it was because they didn't have FI's address... but, I didn't think it was a big deal.
I'll hand deliver as many as I can - to the door, where possible - to save on postage. I don't want anyone at my wedding who thinks it's tacky! They can go get their dinner somewhere else, lol !!
I think that after spending all that time on invites, you are excited to think about people getting a surprise in the mail and opening it. But I think hand delivering invites is very nice, and adds a very personal touch.
I've never heard that hand delivering invitations is tacky. Not tacky at all!!!
I think the traditional etiquette rules, silly as they are, state that invites should always be hand delivered.
we had 150 invites. We only had to mail 20.
The rest were hand delivered, or thrown in mailboxes.
We did include stamped return envelopes.
If people think it's tacky, no problem, don't come.
The best part? A lot of people hand delivered back their reply and said 'here you go, the stamp is still good! You can use that after the wedding!' sweet.
I wouldn't think that is tacky! Hand delivering seems so much more personal, in fact!
i dont think its tacky at all. [unless am just cheap] people who i see on a regular basis will get hand delivered invites, the only ones am mailing are ppl who i dont normally see and those out of town. why waste money on a stamp if i see u every day anyway. I have received many hand delivered invites and never thought less of them.
Wow, that is a very big, heavy invite. Now I'm curious to see what they look like!
I don't think anyone will be offended by having it hand delivered. I would definitely do the same.
One thing that does kind of irrationally bug me though is when people hand deliver their RSVPs to me. I could have save a lot on stamps for those!
LOL Yes they are a little bit on the overboard side... They are square pocket folds with 2 insert cards and RSVP envelope, then they are each wrapped with a thick ribbon and a peacock feather stuck in it. Here's a pic of the outside.
Now I already bought a bunch of stamps at the post office, I wonder if I can return any that I don't use?!? They actually are costing me $1.61 each because I got a dollar stamp and a $.61 stamp, that was the easiest way to do it! Arg!
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I personally think it is wnot tacky! Anyone I see every day is getting their invite hand delivered!
Wow, that's gorgeous! And I'm pretty sure that you can return unused postage, as long as the whole sheet is unused.
It's funny that putting a stamp on something and sending it through the mail is the "proper" way to do it now. It used to be that if people had mail hand-delievered, it showed importance. Hand-deliver them, I say!
I would hand them out! I wanted to but my mother veto'd this idea-- she is the one paying tho so i let her go ahead and mail them all. I don't think its tacky at all. You will know for sure that they didn't get lost in the mail ;-)
With a beautiful invite like that, there IS no tacky!! LOL
Guys don't care... and I think hand delivering is sweeter because its using your time instead of $1.56 :)
why is it tacky? i consider it SMART! there's no need to waste $$ in unnecessary things.
We hand delivered at least half our invites. It saved us SO much money. I'd do it.
We're hand delivering most of our invites too, and will only mail those that are for out of state relatives! :)
I think it's fine to hand deliver as long as people who aren't invited aren't around when you do so.
I think i'll just hand deliver them to the people I see frequently as well. But partly b/c I just want to see them open it up hehe
I made sure to make my invitations so that I wouldn't need more than the normal $.44 cent stamp. But when I needed more than $50 in stamps and my invitations only cost $40 to make, I decided we were hand delivering to our wedding party, our parents and anyone whose address I did not have at that point, lol! There is nothing wrong with hand delivering, some people may see it as you care more anyway, I think the whole etiquette about NOT hand delivering your invitations is just another market ploy to make you spend more money than you need to.
DW - I see my sister at least once a week, so I just gave her hers and all my friends at work the reception invites and the few who are invited to the ceremony just got handed theirs too.
it's all fine :D
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but FH can hand out his invitations to work friends. I just got back from the Post Office and our invitations will cost $1.56 to mail! EACH! OMG! I really went overboard with these invitations. He's only got a few work friends and they're all guys, they won't care if they get it in the mail or not. $1.56!!!