(Closed) I don’t even know if I should be upset

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ya i would find someone else.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

look elsewhere … he sounds like a prick imo.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the other ladies, find someone else =)  If he’s unpleasant now I can’t imagine how it’d be to work with him on the ceremony!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would find someone else. Above all, you want someone who you click with and who WANTS to marry you. When we met our minister, we loved her but she wanted $500. We asked her if she could do it for $300 (which was still more than we had budgeted) and she said of course. And our ceremony was amazing and everyone told us how fabulous she was so she was totally worth it!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would find someone else. I mean, everyone meets with different potential vendors for various roles in the wedding from florists to photographers to officiants. It’s incredibly unprofessional for him to get into a public facebook snark war with a potential client. Me thinks he’s just talked himself out of a job. Block him and find someone else.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Considering he’s someone who probably wants your business, and his initial response is telling you to be patient, I can only imagine what he’d be like if you were to hire him, and he didn’t have to “woo” you anymore.  And you know, the $100 is probably for a reason.  (Get what you pay for sort of thing).

It is a bummer to find someone/something for much cheaper and find out it’s not what you hoped for.  Though I definitely agree with everyone else that this guy really doesn’t sound so good, and probably there are much better options. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I think you should find someone else.  If he was accusatory in his e-mail, then it might not be enjoyable to deal with him during planning and on your and your Fiance’s wedding day.  You want smooth sailing.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sounds like someone with an attitude…AVOID him and keep searching. Best wishes for securing an officiant soon! Laughing

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Abort!  Guy sounds like an ass.  If he’s this much of a jerk when he’s trying to get your business, imagine what he’d be like once he’s actually received your deposit. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I agree in saying find someone else, but I do have to say that this guy doesn’t sound like the AHOLE everyone is making him out to be. He probably works nonstop, and he just wanted a weekend when he didn’t have to do anything. I’m sure he could’ve probably spared a half hour for you, but does that mean he has to spare a half hour for 3 other brides that asked? And then he’s working on a day he originally had off.

I know when you’re trying to have a side business, you have to put a lot of work into it, but I don’t blame this guy for needing a day off.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m going to go against the grain here and say maybe you could give the guy a break.  You could meet with him and he turns out ok.  True that he probably shouldn’t have said to you to be patient, but maybe he feels like you didnt give him a chance either and was writing him off just cause he said he could meet with you *this* weekend.  He should understand too that you need your bases covered.  As 2PeasinaPod said, if he took just you, and just a few others, he doesnt have a day off anymore, he’s gotta draw the line somewhere, sorry it had to be with you too.  I dont think its that he doenst care, just that he care about his work life balanace and doesnt appear to care about your wedding as much as you want him to.  And on the flip, people who do are responsive and all and seem to care, may not care about you per say, responsiveness and a good job is just the best way to get that paycheck and referrals.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah, you should be upset. I would find someone else. I think it was rude and inappropriate for him to tell you to be patient and say he needs time off. He’s not the only officiant around. Good luck!!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think he is not reflecting well upon himself and yes you should find someone new. Telling a client you deserve some time off and the bride needs to be patience is not appropriate way to go about it. I hate when a vendor says something that makes me feel like a foolish person and don’t work with them. He also seems to have too much on his plate as it is and who knows if he will want the weekend of your wedding off as well. Can you not have a friend marry you in Ohio? All that costs is a nice gift =). 

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