- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
So FI and I are hitting a rough spot; a really rough spot. Two Saturdays ago, he decided he wanted to spend some time with a friend/ ex-girlfriend, because she was really sick, and had nobody else in the area. Fine, I hated the idea, but I let him do it. I told him how I felt about the situation, and he understood why I was anxious.
Meanwhile, I have been very on edge lately (before and after he saw this girl, but moreso after) so basically, I tell him I am sorry I have been antsy, and thank him for being patient, but that I was feeling insecure, and wanted him to be kind of extra affectionate/sensitive to my issue. This has arisen before, and he told me to tell him when I am feeling this way, so he understands. Suffice it to say, he wasn’t really doing much. He has been stressed at work, not sleeping great and his back injury have been flaring up.
Fast forward to the Saturday that just passed, we had planned a ‘date night’ So we go out to eat, and kill some time at the mall before the movie. I went to Old Navy, he went to Best Buy, and we met up after. I asked him, if he would mind going to the shoe store, as my winter boots are in shambles, and it wont seem to stop snowing. He said rather curtly, that he would ‘wait in the car’ becasuse his back hurt.. meanwhile he was okay to walk around Best Buy. I told him I wanted him to go with me so we could spend time together, and it frustrated me that he didn’t want to compromise, when I have been dragged to best Buy and game stop on myriad occasions. Basically, I said I felt he was not valuing what I wanted to do, and it hurt me. I also said, that it bothered me that his back pain was affecting things so much, nad more importantly that he doesn’t do anything to help himself feel better, and that he just uses it as an excuse to poop out. (recurring theme with us!)
He gets mad, and tells me that he’s sorry his medical problems are an inconvenience, and that if we couldn’t go out because ” I am crazy” (meanng me) that that would be fine.. and he storms off. We go to the car, and make up, missthe movie and I say I’m sorry. We had sex, and thought things were better, although he didnt seem as in to it, as he usually is (which I can understand)
I went out with friends the next day, so as to give him some alone time, and things were okay. They have been weird ever since. He stiill texts me every morning, and hugs me, but he’s less talkative, romantic and physically affectionate.
I asked him if he wanted some time apart, he said no. I told him i was sorry, many times, I gave him a bj, I bought him dinner and today I sent a really cute e-card with an amazon gift card. He viewed it, but hasn’t responded to it; I sent him a text on an unrelated note, nad no response. Part of me is sad, and worried about us, but part of me is pissed.. like I said I’m sorry, I meant it. I’ve tried to make it up to you, and you’re still in a bad mood.. he acts like just because he is hurt, that somehow I am not.. like I am the one who told you I was sensitive, nad you ignored it. WTF!
I dont know what the hell to do. I told him this morning I wanted to talk this out with him, and I am seeing my shrink (and my mom) today, but its my day off, and I’m just sitting here, being anxious, feeling like its over.
Sorry its so long, I guess I just needed a bee shoulder to vent on. Any thoughts (even if unflattering to me) are welcomed, I just need to get some objectivity on this.