Post # 1
I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding in about 3 months. I actually was hesitant to be a bridesmaid, but I accepted and I’ve been pretty on top of my bridesmaid duties: texting the bride to see if she needs any help; asking her how she’s dong etc. She’s complained about her MO not stepping up to the plate and I listen and try console her. First off the dresses she picked are atrocious. I’ve never seen an uglier dress, but I told her the color was really pretty because I didn’t want to rain on her parade. She loved the dresses. She changed her mind about the bachelorette party like 3 times. Oh and another thing about the dress is half of us have one dress and the other half have another. She wanted us to cancel our orders, but those who ordered early ended up paying twice as much as the ones with a new dress, but I digress. What really gets me is for some odd reason she sent us random pictures of clothing, jewelry etc. and we were all confused as to what it meant. He response was that these were items that we could purchase her if we are feeling “nice”. I thought how rude…is it just me or is this something that happens often? Now I feel like if I don’t get her another gift I’m being a bad bridesmaid. I’ve been a bridesmaid twice before but it was a long time ago. Is this some new trend?
Post # 2
zcuriousbuzzybee: Thankfully not!
I am assuming she is suggesting you purchase these things for her. I would ignore that message.
Post # 3
zcuriousbuzzybee: it sounds like you just have a disorganized bride on your hands. It stinks about the dresses, but it’s probably just best to let it go if they are already purchased. We’ve all been there- worn horriffic bridesmaids dresses that cost way too much, just because it’s what the bride wants. I’m not really sure about the gifts though- that just sounds like she’s being selfish (only exception to that might be if she didn’t have a registry?)…but that’s kind of a rude way of asking for things. There’s definitely no need to buy her these ‘nice gifts’. This is not any new trend I’m aware of so no worries there.
Post # 4
zcuriousbuzzybee: Not a trend that I know of. I wouldn’t ask my bms to buy me stuff, I know how hard they’re working and how much they’ve spent already. That’s the only cringe worthy part though.
As for the dresses, it sucks but it happens. Agree the bride just seems a bit unorganized and having issues making decisions, I can sympathize with that. Good for you for supporting your friend even though the dresses are horrible. I think we all have a bm dress or two in our closet that will never see the light of day again.
Post # 5
shorebride105 Her and her FI have a registry and I planned on getting her a gift from my bf and I. I just found it very odd that she would openly ask for additional gifts.
I’m trying to be supportive as I can be. I’ve never planned a wedding, but it seems like a very stressful time. I’m just glad I only have to wear the dress for one day and it’s over.
Post # 6
zcuriousbuzzybee: that is definitely not a trend and it’s definitely not okay. She is on planet bride which is, in fact, located very high up her own ass.
I would just ignore those messages or respond with, “yes cute! Get it!” if she has the audacity to “call you out” id say… Dear bride- I signed up to be your bridesmaid, not your personal Santa. You’ll have to forgive me.
Post # 7
omg! I was a bride, and definately did not send those kind of texts requesting thoughtfull gifts lol. I do think that it was totally unfair of her to request a new order and not cover costs. Regardless, she sounds like a bridezilla and she needs to get checked before she loses her friends! But of course, try to be supportive, but maybe find a passive way to chit chat about this stuff!
Post # 8
Is it possible that one of the other bridesmaids asked her what she wanted for her bridal shower and this was her response? Or just in general that this is a wishlist of items that she would love but felt weird putting on her official registry?
Post # 9
zcuriousbuzzybee: You’re right, it was inappropriate for the bride to do that. If I were you, I’d completely ignore it, stick to your plan of getting a gift from the registry, get through the wedding, and be glad when it’s over. 🙂
Post # 10
MrsBuesleBee: “She is on planet bride which is, in fact, located very high up her own ass.” — MIST find way to use this phrase in real life.
Post # 11
Well, that’s a new one for me. Very tacky!
Post # 13
yeah, i would just ignore that behavior, and if she continues to be a brat post wedding..then i would tell her off. definitely NOT a new trend.
Post # 14
zcuriousbuzzybee: Jeez, i’ve spent my time worrying about making sure my bridesmaids are happy and what I can buy for them I would never dream of asking them to buy me something! Very tacky in my opinion, if I were you I wouldn’t pander to her behaviour.