I don't feel like this was appropriate?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

zcuriousbuzzybee:  Thankfully not!

I am assuming she is suggesting you purchase these things for her. I would ignore that message.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

zcuriousbuzzybee:  it sounds like you just have a disorganized bride on your hands.  It stinks about the dresses, but it’s probably just best to let it go if they are already purchased.  We’ve all been there- worn horriffic bridesmaids dresses that cost way too much, just because it’s what the bride wants.  I’m not really sure about the gifts though- that just sounds like she’s being selfish (only exception to that might be if she didn’t have a registry?)…but that’s kind of a rude way of asking for things. There’s definitely no need to buy her these ‘nice gifts’. This is not any new trend I’m aware of so no worries there. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

zcuriousbuzzybee:  Not a trend that I know of. I wouldn’t ask my bms to buy me stuff, I know how hard they’re working and how much they’ve spent already. That’s the only cringe worthy part though.

As for the dresses, it sucks but it happens. Agree the bride just seems a bit unorganized and having issues making decisions, I can sympathize with that. Good for you for supporting your friend even though the dresses are horrible. I think we all have a bm dress or two in our closet that will never see the light of day again.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

zcuriousbuzzybee:  that is definitely not a trend and it’s definitely not okay. She is on planet bride which is, in fact, located very high up her own ass. 

I would just ignore those messages or respond with, “yes cute! Get it!” if she has the audacity to “call you out” id say… Dear bride- I signed up to be your bridesmaid, not your personal Santa. You’ll have to forgive me.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

omg! I was a bride, and definately did not send those kind of texts requesting thoughtfull gifts lol. I do think that it was totally unfair of her to request a new order and not cover costs. Regardless, she sounds like a bridezilla and she needs to get checked before she loses her friends! But of course, try to be supportive, but maybe find a passive way to chit chat about this stuff!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Is it possible that one of the other bridesmaids asked her what she wanted for her bridal shower and this was her response? Or just in general that this is a wishlist of items that she would love but felt weird putting on her official registry? 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

zcuriousbuzzybee:  You’re right, it was inappropriate for the bride to do that. If I were you, I’d completely ignore it, stick to your plan of getting a gift from the registry, get through the wedding, and be glad when it’s over. 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MrsBuesleBee:  “She is on planet bride which is, in fact, located very high up her own ass.” — MIST find way to use this phrase in real life.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Well, that’s a new one for me. Very tacky!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yes, very tacky! 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

yeah, i would just ignore that behavior, and if she continues to be a brat post wedding..then i would tell her off. definitely NOT a new trend.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

zcuriousbuzzybee:  Jeez, i’ve spent my time worrying about making sure my bridesmaids are happy and what I can buy for them I would never dream of asking them to buy me something! Very tacky in my opinion, if I were you I wouldn’t pander to her behaviour.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

eeek very rude 

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