Post # 1
We live in a “nice” building, in the middle of downtown. The surrounding streets are not safe at night. There have been many, MANY shootings/stabbings/people set on fire just 3-4 blocks away from our building. But our apartment building is supposedly safe. It has a security guard at night, and you need a key to get into the building itself, and a separate key to get into the parking garage.
But I have a hard time sleeping at night. We live on the second floor, and there’s a (loud) bus stop right ouside our window, and a police station down the street. I’ll lay awake with our bedroom door open, so I can see the front door. Every hour or so, I’ll hear (what I think is) a “click,” or any other little noise, so I run out and look through the peephole in our front door and stand there for a couple of mins until I feel better, and then try and go back to bed. And I’ll hear drunk/crazy people outside screaming about this or that… which startles me every time. Even with the windows CLOSED.
THE WORST PART: We cant afford this apartment anymore.(We pay $1,600 a month. We live in California.) In June, we have to move to a cheaper apartment… and I have NO clue where we’re going to move.
Obviously our new apartment building wont have as many security features as this one (uh, probably none at all actually… besides a lock on the door,) which will make me even MORE paranoid. I’m feeling stressed and sick.
I have no idea what we’re going to do… people on Reddit have even made “crime maps” of our city, based on real data, and of course the “green” areas (low-to-no crime) have rentals that START at $1,800/mo (1 bedroom.) Right now, we live in a “yellow” crime area. I can’t believe it.
I’m so stressed about this. 🙁
I hate California. And we can’t afford to move. So hilarious… We’re STUCK here. 🙁
Post # 3
You’re describing Any major city… Can you get out of downtown? The burbs are usually cheaper and there is less violent crime.
Post # 4
@AquaGrey8962: I totally understand. I say that I live “hood adjacent”. It is a college town so it isn’t like inner city ghetto but I still worry at night walking home. My alarm makes me feel better though. I have panick buttons on both sides of the house and they really do monitor it well. Perhaps if you have to move somewhere worse get a nice alamr system.
Post # 5
@subtlebee: That’s a good idea. I’ll look into some apartment alarms. For now, I’ve been propping things up against the front door, or setting up things for potential robbers to trip over if they happen to get in… it’s like Home Alone up in here, lol
Post # 6
@mamadingdong: In California, there’s no inbetween out here. If you live in a safe neighborhood, you’re paying $$$$ for it. There’s no reasonably priced 1-bedroom apartments in the suburbs. Which is why I’m so frustrated 🙁
Post # 7
Are you in So cal? In LA? Downtown LA is definitely not the best place to live. Even in the nice buildings, I wouldn’t live there personally. I live in LA and it’s not bad directly around me and my rent is reasonable. Small apartment, but not too bad. It’s good for now until we buy a house. PM me if you like!
Post # 8
@AquaGrey8962: I’m sorry you feel unsafe in your home. I lived by myself for many, many years on the first level. Here are a few items that I purchased to give myself peace of mind:
- Master Lock Dual Function Door Security Bar
Security bar is designed for hinged and sliding doors to resist forced entry. Adjust from 27-1/2″ to 42″ to fit most standard doors and sliding patio doors. Top piece removes for sliding door application. Pivoting ball joint assures full contact with floor. Padded foot provides a sure grip without scratching. Security bar is made of rugged 20 gauge steel. You place it underneath the doorknob and it locks with a key.
There are also window locks that you screw onto the tracking for opening/closing the windows to prevent opening (I believe I bought those at Wal-Mart or Target, in a 2 pack).
I also have 3 bottles of Mean Greeen Dye Pepper Spray, I keep one on the wall by my bed, 1 on the wall in the garage and 1 in my pocket when walking to/from car, to mailbox etc…. (www.foxlabs.com).
And lastly there are plug in motion sensors for around $40 (I haven’t tried these).
Post # 9
Where in CA do you live? I lived in a “bad” part of Philly for years and never had any trouble.
Maybe when you look for apartments, find one that is higher up and away from a police station?
Post # 10
@StillAMiss: I have the same thing! My FI and I got it for our old apartment when we realized we could easily break into our back door with a credit card. (The things you learn when you lock yourself out, lol.)
We live across the country in a much nicer neighborhood now, but you can never be too safe so we still use it.
Post # 11
I’d get a second job to save money for my safety and well being if I had to. Or hubby would. Otherwise you’re stuck like that for good. Have to change to make change.
Post # 12
I feel for you. It is really rough on every part of you and your life to be stuck in a place you dislike, especially if you feel unsafe. That happened to me and I was stuck for three years! I bet there is some way to eventually problem solve this so you can be free. I am finally!
Post # 13
I’m assuming there’s plenty of public transportation if you’re near a major city. Can you live on the end of a subway line into the city? I live on the red line, in Quincy outside of Boston. I live in a WAY safer area, and I’m about an hour outside of the city.
Post # 14
@AquaGrey8962: i hear you. where we live is horribly dangerous too =S went out to buy breakfast a while back and couldnt…due to the dead body that had been shot several times in the head and the police surrounding it. it sucks
i dont go out alone at night and even with fi i dont go to any of the bars or anything here. but you know, one day we’re going to live somewhere way better! and so will you!
Post # 15
One of the cheapest, easiest ways to defend your home from intruders is to buy a very large dog dish and set it on the kitchen or dining room floor, where it can be easily seen by a peeping potential intruder, and leave some very large dog toys in plain sight where they can be seen from outside by anyone looking through a window.
Even if the bad guys don’t see an actual dog, they will not want to risk breaking into a home where they think a dog “may” live. Especially not a big dog. They’re going to move along pretty quickly.
As for when you’re outside of your home, take a self defense class at your local YMCA, or even better, take a proper boxing (not kickboxing or box-aerobics) class where you can become more confident in yourself and build the skills to protect yourself on the streets.
You shouldn’t have to live in fear, and creating a “bad guy free zone” around yourself really helps (I should know– I live in what used to be a very bad neighborhood and is still “transitional” so I’ve had to really get the street smarts working).
Post # 16
I live on the south side of chicago. It’s not all terrible. By my house if you go about 6 blocks in either direction your ok. But any direction more than 6 blocks or so is gonna lead to trouble. My area has been kind of a hold out I guess you could say. We still have lots of families, older people, and young couples just starting out. Its a nice area for the most part if you just dont’ venture too far out. Chicago in general is a scary place right now, our homicide rate is terrifying. I understand being nervous given what you described. I second getting an alarm system and some ways to protect yourself. being proactive about it will take away some of the fear because you know you are doing things to prevent someone from actually getting near you or your home.