(Closed) i don’t get along with women

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t get along with most women I know, but I think that’s because most women around my age are in a different place in their lives than I am.  I get along well with most of the Bees, though!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m one of those girls, or I should say used to be.  I used to have a hard time with girls, and I still have a lot of trust issues (lots of girls burned me in the past). 

But I think that of my two best friends, one is definitely the same as me.  We both just get along better with guys and my other best friend gets along with everyone, so it works.

Sometimes its hard to find these girls because they are always with other guys and tend to shy away from other girls, even if those girls happen to be like them.  Like I said before, for me, it’s trust with girls.  Some of my best girl friends when I was a kid treated me horribly so it’s incredibly hard for me to trust other women not to do the same kinds of things (talk behind my back, being catty, jealousy, two-faced, etc).

This might not help you and may not be true of all girls like that, but it’s my perspective!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I grew up around all guys. I prefer to hang around with women. Men are just as catty and 1000% rougher.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Why don’t they just become friends with one another? Well…probably because they don’t get along..?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t like hanging out with women, partly because a lot of them are over dramatic or shallow or whatever, but even if they’re nice they still intimidate the hell out of me. I’m much more comfortable around guys, and I do have a few good female friends but I’d still say I’m closer with and prefer being with my guy friends. If I met another “guy’s girl” I probably wouldn’t talk to her because I’d think she’s too cool to talk to me or something. I don’t see why it’s really a problem to solve, though. I’ve got the friends I want to have.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@MabelleBliss:  But then wouldn’t that make it look like you are the one that thinks you are to cool to speak with her?

She might be the coolest person ever and has tons in common with you. But because she is a girl you won’t even give her the chance?

I’m not being snarky, i’m just honestly wondering. I know everyone has their own preferences. But you don’t want to miss having a great person in your life because you think they may fit into the stereotype of what women act like.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I don’t judge people based on gender. I’m friends with whoever I get along well with. That said, I have more male friends than female friends. I do think this is partly because of my profession, IT is very male dominated so I tend to be around men quite a bit.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I used to be this way – very much so. I still befriend guys more easily than I do females, but I find as I’m getting older, many of the women I surround myself feel as though they have less to prove, and are just…people. Not the catty, stuck up, annoying girls I used to know.

I see now, there’s something powerful about the female bond.

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MrsJazzy:  haha, I love this! Perfect solution!

It really bugs me when a woman says that she doesn’t “get along with women.” What? Why? Because all women are the same? Aren’t YOU a woman? Do you not get along with yourself?

It’s just so….. sexist. Obviously. 

I’m friends with the people I get along with. Period. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

starting in college up to now, the majority of my friends have been guys. but I think it’s just a coincidence. I get along with females just fine– but I don’t really do stereotypical things with girls like shopping or manicures. (I do sometimes, but it’s really rare.) 

needless to say, this kind of made wedding planning a little lonely for me. I did a lot of those errands alone.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MissCallieJean:  Oh no it’s not like I refuse to be friends with any women at all, I just have a harder time talking to them so I don’t end up being friends with them. It’s more like a trend in my behaviour that I noticed, and then later came to identify with, rather than I just decided one day “women suck I won’t be their friends” I hope I don’t come off as trying to be too cool, I think I probably seem too shy or too awkward… but idk if that’s true. I have a lot of social anxieties, they’re just greater when dealing with women for some reason (maybe all-girls high school ruined me for life, haha) 
I feel like they will judge me more, even if they’re nice and don’t gossip about it. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I also have a harder time when connecting with women especially my age. I get along with my more mature co workers. But most gals in their mid 20s as I am, I cannot connect with or understand due to maturity differences.

I am a get along gal though. I bite my tounge to try to get along with everyone. LOL

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