(Closed) I don’t get annoyed with DH anymore, yay!

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@CanAmBride: Living together is def an adjustment. I’m glad to hear things are going well!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@CanAmBride: Oh gosh… DH and I have been living together for almost 2 YEARS and he still bugs the hell out of me. Dishes are still put in the wrong place after 2 years… but I digress. I must learn your secret!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

That’s wonderful!! FI and I have lived together for 6 months now and we’re now finally good with everything and things are so great. We finally got used to each other and our behaviours. So I know how happy you are!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

That’s great! My husband and I have lived together for six years and he still puts things away in the wrong places.. it drives me crazy 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Please share your methods.  FI and I are moving in together in 2 weeks and while I love him to death, Im afraid one of us wont survive. 

I mean, he likes to leave his extremely sweaty gym clothes on floor for me to step in!!!!!!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Glad to hear things are going well! I’ve lived with my husband for a bit over a year now, and I feel like we go in cycles. For a few months everything is great, and then for a few months everything is still great but he does things that annoy me. 

My strategy for dealing with the annoying things (the truly insignificant but annoy me anyway kind of things) is to make a concerned effort– when i see him doing them– to say “I love you” to him instead of “omg could you not do that please?” I think it kinda reminds me, and puts me in a better mood. And then he says it back which puts me in an even better mood. And suddenly the fact that he can’t make a sandwich without getting mayo on the inside of cheese package doesn’t seem quite so significant haha. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@firsttimemom: ha, yes! DH and I have been living together for almost 4 years and I STILL get annoyed with him! Even if he’s trying to do something nice, I won’t let him clean the kitchen because I know I will end up having to clean up after him anyways!

 @CanAmBride: Maybe absense really does make the heart grow fonder 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@PitBulLover: Yes! The dishes will be “done” when I get home but I ALWAYS have to end up doing them over. But, I have to do it stealthily because otherwise it’s the “what? I didn’t do a good enough job? You don’t appreciate my efforts.” No, I appreciate your efforts, maybe you could just put your efforts into something you can do…correctly? :/

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

ugh that is really the worst thing. Because its like… you’re glad that he’s trying. But you sometimes feel a little like maybe not trying hard enough? lol. I can remember when I was a kid having fights with my mom because she asked me to “do the dishes “and I “did the dishes” but didn’t wipe down the counters, put things away, and generally tidy up. I claimed I did what I was asked– she claimed that I was being lazy and that sometimes you need to SEE what needs to be done and do it– go a little above and beyond. I think thats a pretty common thing that a lot of girls learn when it comes to cleaning growing up. But not guys. You ask them to do the dishes– they do the dishes and totally ignore the red sauce splattered all over the stove. But its a little too late for parenting…. just makes me vow that if I have a boy I’ll make sure he knows how to clean as well as any girl! lol that will be my gift to my future DIL.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CorgiTales: YES! Omg the stuff on the stove is definitely what kills me lol. What a great plan for your future DIL!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Oh man, I am totally in the reverse situation of you all. . . I am the one always screwing up/not doing a good enough job. It’s pretty depressing, let me tell you. So be kind to your guys. They are probably like, oh my god, why do we even use the dishwasher if you completely clean the plates before putting them in? I mean, WHY BOTHER? Just hand wash everything. Also, when I cook, stuff gets messy. Okay? I can’t help it. I’m not doing it to annoy you. And sometimes I get distracted and I miss a spot cleaning up. Then I feel terrible when you point it out and want to go lie down and give up on the whole thing. Why don’t you just do everything yourself, then!

lol

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Oh man, I am totally in the reverse situation of you all. . . I am the one always screwing up/not doing a good enough job. It’s pretty depressing, let me tell you. So be kind to your guys. They are probably like, oh my god, why do we even use the dishwasher if you completely clean the plates before putting them in? I mean, WHY BOTHER? Just hand wash everything. Also, when I cook, stuff gets messy. Okay? I can’t help it. I’m not doing it to annoy you. And sometimes I get distracted and I miss a spot cleaning up. Then I feel terrible when you point it out and want to go lie down and give up on the whole thing. Why don’t you just do everything yourself, then!

lol

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Oh man, I am totally in the reverse situation of you all. . . I am the one always screwing up/not doing a good enough job. It’s pretty depressing, let me tell you. So be kind to your guys. They are probably like, oh my god, why do we even use the dishwasher if you completely clean the plates before putting them in? I mean, WHY BOTHER? Just hand wash everything. Also, when I cook, stuff gets messy. Okay? I can’t help it. I’m not doing it to annoy you. And sometimes I get distracted and I miss a spot cleaning up. Then I feel terrible when you point it out and want to go lie down and give up on the whole thing. Why don’t you just do everything yourself, then! And all of this after I spent hours slaving to make you a delicious dinner.

lol

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Keltaena: good news! you are RIGHT about the dishwasher. My mom always rolls her eyes when she is at my house because we don’t usually rinse anything before we put it in the dishwasher. Well– I actually read an article on cnn (wish I’d saved it!) on how you don’t NEED to rinse things anymore if you have a newish dishwasher because they are powerful enough to clean food away, and it is actually better to not because otherwise you’re wasting a lot of water. 

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