(Closed) I don’t have anyone

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aw, that blows. Sorry you’re going through that. Why not just have a small wedding without a bridal party?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t have any advice other than maybe see if your fiance would be understanding enough to nix the bridal party like the first poster said, but I can tell you that I feel really, really bad for you. I’m sorry.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I’m so sorry!  I’m sure you are feeling down and out. 

The important thing to remember and to remain focused on is that you are getting married.  The ones that love you and support you will be there and if not, what really matters is that you are marrying your love.  Perhaps you can have a small ceremony?

Personally, after having planned this enormous wedding with my daughter?  Girl, save your money and elope!  Turn this around, save your money, have a small ceremony and go take a fabulous honeymoon of a lifetime!  What matters is your marriage and you and your hubby.  It’s their loss, not yours!  Keep your head up!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This made me so sad 🙁   I don’t have any advice but i’m sending you a big {{{{{HUG}}}}}

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am soo sorry to hear this 🙁 

Your wedding is still far off.  Maybe in the next year, people will change their mind about being in the wedding or you’ll meet someone new. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would make it known as delicately as possible to your parents and FIL that you were declined by your stepsisters and FSIL. I’m just thinking your parents and FMIL may be a little offended if they think you didn’t try to include their daughters. Also, that way when you tell them to suck it if they every ask you, at least everyone will know why. Maybe right now people are just too jealous and having a hard time dealing with it. Anyone of them may get engaged soon and then there goes that. You’ll find someone within the year! 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sorry you’re going through this OP.  I think you should’ve waited a lot longer to ask people in the first place… 18 months out is a HUGE amount of time in my opinion.  I’m not asking my girls until about 8 months out – you just never know what could happen!

That being said, I’d wait until like Feb of next year to ask someone (if you still want a bridal party), and in the mean time, take up some hobbies!  Belly dance, cooking, knitting, hiking, yoga, book clubs, sports teams… anything that helps you meet new people!  I’m willing to bet you’ll meet some awesome new people, and maybe in the next year or so you’ll develop some stronger relationships, and those are people you could have up there with you.

If not, I say nix the bridal party altogether and have it just be you and your fiance 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Do you have any male friends/family members that you’re close to? I know it’s untraditional, but a friend of mine is having 3 guys she’s extremely close with along with me and her sister as her “bridal party” because she doesn’t have that many close female friends but she really wants them to be a part of her wedding.

I’m so, so sorry that you’re finding out who your friends really are this way – it’s got to be hurtful, and I don’t know how I’d feel in your place.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is kind of a crazy suggestion, but you could always advertise on Craigslist.  There are actresses and models out there who will show up for the ceremony for as little as free to $50.00.  I have heard of it being done before.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that you’re friends probably aren’t really your friends then anyway.  I had a bridesman and it wasn’t awkward at all. For someone to say no, I think there’s an underlying issue there. You don’t need to have a wedding party and it’s better they say no now then flake closer to the wedding IMO.

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