I don't know how to be single

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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868 posts
Busy bee

@PatientBride:  I would say he’s looking for booty.  So I would wait and see if he asks me out on a real proper date. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@PatientBride:  personally, if I was awake I’d just respond. I don’t believe in the whole “don’t respond too quickly” or any of those texting/being single bullshit games. If you text me, and I see it, I’ll respond. Unless I’m super busy or something, obviously. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@PatientBride:  I texted my boyfriend all throughout the night before I was dating him, same with him. You never know, not all guys just want sex. He probably does, but you never know until you try. If he says he wants to come hang out, I’d just say no. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t answer your text though. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

Yes, you’re thinking too much lol

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@PatientBride:  I would not respond at 5:30 am under most circumstances. It is beyond rude to be texting people at that time of the night, and in all likelihood he’s been into his cups, had no luck picking up at the bar or wherever, and is falling back to Plan B.

If you let people treat you like a booty call, that’s all you’ll ever be to them.

I would text the next morning and say “Hi, just got your text. What’s up?”.  Not make a big production out of it. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A 5:30 text is a booty call. The next time he texts you will most likely be the next time he’s drunk and wants to get laid. Pass on this one! Go for a guy that CALLS you for a dinner date or something more romantic

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know many people who text after a night out without it being soley a booty call. Some guys do it because they are less shy then. I’d shoot him a quick friendly text today and see how it goes.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Chelwilly:  said…

 

A 5:30 text is a booty call. The next time he texts you will most likely be the  next time he’s drunk and wants to get laid. Pass on this one! Go for a guy that  CALLS you for a dinner date or something more romantic

100% this…

If he’s just met you… and doesn’t know you… he’s taking a big risk… but it clearly is one he’s willing to take.  Another words one of 2 things is going on with him…

(a) He doesn’t see you as any more than a Booty Call kind of girl

(b) He isn’t the sort of guy who sees himself to be anything other than a guy wanting to get laid (not a relationship kind of guy)

Either way, he’s not worth your time.  YOU DESERVE BETTER

To reply is to look interested… (devalue yourself)…

OR

Worse desperate (devalue yourself even more)

A guy who is really interested will respect you and treat you a lot better than this !!

When Mr TTR and I first exchanged phone numbers, I told him, I wasn’t giving out mine… I wasn’t into that until I actually knew someone a bit better (mostly because I had too many loser booty call boys before him)… so I took his number.  And called him a few days later.

Lol, he was happy to hear from me, and asked Why I didn’t call sooner.  I said I had been busy.  He asked doing what… so I told him the sort of stuff I’d been up to in the last few days… Work, Going to the Gym, Dinner with a GF.  It showed I HAD A LIFE, and wasn’t hanging by the phone just waiting for him to call *… and he only was all the more interested… and we made plans to get together in person again after that (a hang out with mutual friends sort of thing)

* Lol, I remember the first time after I did give him my phone number a few weeks down the road he called me and got my Voicemail.  This intrigued him… when I called back, he wanted to know where I’d been.  I cannot recall now exactly, but it was another case as I was busy living my life.  He really really was becoming smitten with me pretty quickly, and he was always interested in what I was doing when we weren’t together, because “secretly” he was wishing he was with me and hanging out.

You don’t have to play games with a man, but it does matter a great deal in the “Dating Game” if you understand how men think.  It will give you the upper hand… and you’ll be able to make dating work for you, so that you aren’t wasting time on guys who aren’t worth it.

Best Book… Dr Phil’s “Love Smart ~ Find the One You Want – Fix the one you got”

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@PatientBride:  Could the guy be an early morning runner and he thought you might want to join him?  Does he surf?  I don’t know if you live by an ocean but guys who surf wake up butt early to do it.  I’m the polyanna who believes this guy is an early morning surfer/runner who wanted to share the morning with you in a totally non-sexual way 🙂

I’m usually wrong though.

Post # 15
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448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@PatientBride:  

I know, but still I would text back and say something like “Hey, sorry I’m responding so late. How are you?”.

Post # 16
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3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This guy is not relationship material! 

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