Weddingbee boards

@Starkiss:  I was in a LDR for a 1 1/2 yrs. It was painful and received endless comments like that but I would just smile and say “It’s not easy but worth it thanks"

Ekk as if we don’t/didn’t know it is hard.

Whenever I hear something like that, I feel like responding with, "Well, you must not love your boyfriend/girlfriend/SO enough if you couldn't make it in a LDR".  Sometimes, its hard to not want to have a snarky comment when people talk about long distance or missing their SO "sooooo much" because "I haven't seen him in two days!" *facepalm*.

My favourite comment is when SO's mother commented that we shouldn't laugh about his younger sister and her boyfriend acting like they hadn't seen each other forever because, "They haven't seen each other in three days!"  When she said it, we had just gone withing seeing each other 3+ weeks, had already had 15 months long distance behind us, and when I was about her age we literally had no way to communicate 5 days a week (he worked at a provincial park).

Honestly, it doesn't really bother me that much when people say that. What really does make me angry though, is when people tell me they 'get what i'm going though' because they once had to go to college two and a half hours away from their boyfriend or whatver. I mean, I guess that's kind of a big deal for some people - but if they really wanted to be together then one of them could have just moved. My fiance and I have never had that option, and won't for another eight months or so when his visa comes through. I think most people mean well when they say these sorts of things, but some of them really ought to think before they talk.

Yup, yup...here on the island while the fiance is in the USA and I get it all the time. How can it work? It wont last? Are you sure he is not cheating? And then I wanted to tell one particular young lady to check her husband who came home EVERY night but was spending his days doing "other" things. Some persons spend time worying about what they shouldn't and do not even see what is under their own noses. sheesh

Can't wait until April when I go back to the USA and then he makes the next visit here. Fortunately the long distance should be ending pretty soon!

@linguo42:  I would love to go to Hawaii as a grad gift, I can't imagine spending the entire time on the phone.  As for being away to get money or go to school vs staying nearby, I think that would be an obvious choice.  SO & I are currently at least both in driving distance within each other, but if he ended up getting a job in Northern Ontario for a year and a half, it wouldn't be the end of the world (plus, isolation pay would be a nice chunk of a downpayment!).

@MrsWrangler:  45 minutes!?  When SO & I started dating in high school, we were that far apart.  I did nearly 3 hours a day on the bus, 45 minutes is nothing!!  I especially can't imagine saying that to somebody who is a few time zones away from their FI!  I guess some people just don't think.

Although, I will admit that I did consider us long distance at one point when we were 1.5 hours apart.  However, in my defence, he worked at a provincial park and we had no contact 5 days a week... no internet, no cell service, no phone.  In fact, I did find that even more difficult than being six hours apart at times.

I just say "yeah it sucks".....Today someone freaked out because i won't see my FI til March 9th (Havent seen him since Jan 9th). I was its not a huge deal and they just kept freaking out about being apart for 2 months. I mean it's bad enough being far away without your freaking out about it.

@inspiredcreationsbyhaley:  People ask me "Why doesnt he just come here for school?" Well let's see because my parents pay for my schooling and it 40,000 a year. The FI has a full time job and pays for his own schooling and im not going to make him quit a wonderful steady job just so he can be with me. I'm not selfish enough (even though at times i wish I was).