Post # 1
My fiancee lives abbout an hour drive away from me. We usually see each other 1-2 times per week due to our clashing work/study committments…it’s not easy but we make an effort….I guess my problem is that he has a habit of scheduling other people in (friends/family) on holiday days….Christmas, Easter, and now Australia Day. We rarely get common days off, and he is hanging out with his best friend at some gaming convention (I know I know). I guess I am feeling a bit put out that I am stuck at home alone and feeling rather lonely while his mate has booked him out for the ENTIRE WEEKEND…..
I don’t know why I am upset….I guess my question is am I being overly dramatic? I don’t mind him hanging out with friends I just don’t understand why it had to be on a holiday….
Post # 3
also this is not a one off thing….it happens all the time on holiday days
Post # 4
You still manage to see each other once or twice a week though, so it’s not like holiday was the only time he could see you and he made plans. Maybe that is a friend that he sees even less often and holidays are the only time that those friends or family was available?
Post # 5
@Fizzybee: I have this feeling a lot too. But I have to remind myself that soon it will be just me and him, and all of our friends will not be near us anymore. We will be graduating in May and Married in January.
I have to tell myself that soon I will get to be with him all I want, and this is his time to hang out with his friends as much as he can.
You stated study in your post so I assume yall are in college. It will be your time soon for you two to be together all the time. 🙂 Just be patient.
Post # 6
You need his attention just as his friends need his attention, too. It’s hard to micromanage both sets when you live a considerable distance apart.
Post # 7
Thanks guys:-) You are all right….when we are married I’ll probably be seeing TOO much of him! It’s hard sometimes because I graduated last year and am working full time but he decided to go do a second degree because he wanted a different line of work than the first one qualified him for. We had to push all our plans back and it’s so hard being patient. It will be worth it in the end though
Post # 8
You should talk to him, if you haven’t voiced your feelings to him, he wont know it bothers you and than after you tell him I’m sure he will try to spend for holidays with you