(Closed) I don't know if my bridesmaids like me….

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You still have quite a while before your wedding.  If I were you, I’d just kind of let it got for now, and wait until closer to 9ish months before your wedding to select any wedding party members.  It’s possible between now and then things will iron themselves out 🙂

Post # 4
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2343 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

simple, dont ask them and have the other 3 girls. then u know that the ones u do pick are reliable and love u for u

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I think, based on your post, that you’re overthinking it. Just because they’ve gotten closer doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be friends with you. Is there a reason they’re hanging out more? Like working nearby each other, having similar schedules, etc. Or is there a reason you’re less accessible? Like more friends in other friend groups, crazier work schedule, boy time, family time, etc.

I think sometimes it’s easy to gravitate towards one person, just because they have background on a story, or they were there for you recently, and then patterns develop. But I doubt they’re consciously cutting you out, since they still invite you places, and catch you up on things. You might feel like an “afterthought”, but I mean, if I’m having a convo with someone and she mentions wanting to try restaurant x, I’ll set it up with her first, and then invite everyone else who might want to join after.

In my experience, who you’re “closest” to varies a lot and is something more of convenience. Just because you don’t tell someone everything right away doesn’t mean you don’t still love them. My best friend and I are on opposite schedules, so we just crash reconnect a few times a year, and then I crash reconnect with about a half dozen other people, and genuinely confide in 2-3… but when I look at the past 5 years, who those 2-3 people are cycles based on what’s going on in my and their lives respectively. The girl I confide in most now, I had an approximate five year hiatus from regularly confiding in because we only saw each other once a year, and neither of us are really big on the long-distance friendship thing. I think if you pre-emptively burn those bridges by reading too much into their patterns, you’re going to miss out on the opportunity to reconnect.

Maybe try to connect with each of them separately, and see if strengthening each relationship individually helps. Or try to take the initiative and invite them out to things you really want to do. But honestly, they’re still communicating, still sharing (a pregnancy scare is a big deal!), so I’d say, again, based on just the info provided, that you’re overthinking.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

1. Your wedding is over a year away so you can wait before making your decision

2. You should read some of the (insane) bridesmaid posts floating around here and some of them may make u not choose girls you are “iffy” about

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