I don't know what I like to do anymore…

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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11002 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@TeachTennessee:  I noticed you mentioned going on mission trips.  Is that something you could consider doing now?  My DSD is going on one in a few weeks, and all of her support was provided by others. I am really hoping it will be a life-changing experience for her. Mine were for me.

Post # 4
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5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Could you do smaller scale versions of the big things you want to do?  Maybe find a local stable that offers trail rides to get your horse fix?  Perhaps there is a church that does inner city outreach, so it can be like a mission trip without the third world disease and 18 hour flight?  Love to travel- maybe take a day trip to a nearby city and do all the ‘touristy’ things like museums and art galleries or whatever.

Be spontaneous.  Do something crazy (for you).  When I moved back to my hometown I was in a total rut, so I started volunteering at our local dog rescue and I signed up for a few 5k charity road races.  I met some cool people, got tons of exercise, and busted out of that rut.  I made that rut my bitch.  It was AWESOME 🙂

Post # 6
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Can you just do something?  I got in a slump kind of like this during college.  I lived alone.  My boyfriend lived about 40 minutes away.  Most nights I came home from class, put on pajamas, ate pasta-roni, and sat on the internet until I fell asleep.  It was bad.  It made me depressed, and pathetic, and clingy, and whiny.

So, I started making myself go out at least once a week.  Every Wednesday, I took myself to the local artsy movie theater and watched whatever sounded the most interesting of the films they had going.  It seems silly, but it really improved my outlook.

In your case, are there diluted versions of your dream activities that you could pursue?  You can’t own horses, but you could volunteer with a charity that does therapeutic riding for disabled kids.  You could try out for a community theater production where everyone has day jobs so they’re sensitive to people’s schedules.  Heck, just start *going* to plays, even cheap little local dinky ones are fun.

You don’t need a “passion,” you just need *something* to get you out and engaged.

Post # 7
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2883 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I hear you loud and clear because I have been feeling the same way.

You still have lots of fun events in your life to look forward to 

Getting married, moving in together, maybe starting a family, travelling-  see you have lots of things ahead of you in life:))))))

Post # 9
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Maybe you could think about the things you can do on your own to help prepare for those future adventures?  Learn a language, maybe of the place you most want to go? Or teach yourself to cook really well, or knit, or write, or something.  You could make a list of all the books/plays you’ve put off reading, or films, and read/watch them. 

 

If you already do these things, then maybe something like an online class, so you can still be interacting with others about a topic you enjoy, even if it’s not in person. 

Not the same as going out, obviously, but possibly better than nothing. 

 

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