Post # 1
I’m coming to a point in my life, maybe you’d call it a quarter-life crisis, and I can’t help but think “Is this it? Is this what life will be like for the rest of my years?” I can’t help but think that I am destined to be bored and live a boring mechanical life. I have 2 best friends, but we don’t hang out every week. I am engaged but can’t plan our wedding until we have full time jobs. I still live with my parents who are older and are in bed at like 6 pm everyday. I just don’t feel like I am where I wanted to be at this point in my life. I also have anxiety issues (undiagnosed, but clear to everyone). I’m just feeling very helpless and disheartened. :/ I have things that I would LOVE to do but that are completely not plausible for years and years. I’d LOVE to travel, I’d LOVE to have horses again, I’d LOVE to perform in plays, go on mission trips, etc. I just feel like I don’t know so much about myself and the person that I’ve grown to be. Anyone else been there? How did you cope/ get out of the slump? I just feel so lost about how to find a plausible passion.
Post # 3
@TeachTennessee: I noticed you mentioned going on mission trips. Is that something you could consider doing now? My DSD is going on one in a few weeks, and all of her support was provided by others. I am really hoping it will be a life-changing experience for her. Mine were for me.
Post # 4
Could you do smaller scale versions of the big things you want to do? Maybe find a local stable that offers trail rides to get your horse fix? Perhaps there is a church that does inner city outreach, so it can be like a mission trip without the third world disease and 18 hour flight? Love to travel- maybe take a day trip to a nearby city and do all the ‘touristy’ things like museums and art galleries or whatever.
Be spontaneous. Do something crazy (for you). When I moved back to my hometown I was in a total rut, so I started volunteering at our local dog rescue and I signed up for a few 5k charity road races. I met some cool people, got tons of exercise, and busted out of that rut. I made that rut my bitch. It was AWESOME 🙂
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be able to do a mission trip for another year. I’m really hoping to get a teaching job before fall, and would therefore be tied down until next summer. I am working part time at a daycare this summer, and cannot afford to compromise the job 🙁 I’d love to be able to take a trip somewhere nearby, again money is an issue. No one I know is able to go anywhere when I’m free. I am not comfortable travelling alone, or I would have gone already. I even have free tickets to an amusement park (through work) and I haven’t been able to use them because no one else is free.
Post # 6
Can you just do something? I got in a slump kind of like this during college. I lived alone. My boyfriend lived about 40 minutes away. Most nights I came home from class, put on pajamas, ate pasta-roni, and sat on the internet until I fell asleep. It was bad. It made me depressed, and pathetic, and clingy, and whiny.
So, I started making myself go out at least once a week. Every Wednesday, I took myself to the local artsy movie theater and watched whatever sounded the most interesting of the films they had going. It seems silly, but it really improved my outlook.
In your case, are there diluted versions of your dream activities that you could pursue? You can’t own horses, but you could volunteer with a charity that does therapeutic riding for disabled kids. You could try out for a community theater production where everyone has day jobs so they’re sensitive to people’s schedules. Heck, just start *going* to plays, even cheap little local dinky ones are fun.
You don’t need a “passion,” you just need *something* to get you out and engaged.
Post # 7
I hear you loud and clear because I have been feeling the same way.
You still have lots of fun events in your life to look forward to
Getting married, moving in together, maybe starting a family, travelling- see you have lots of things ahead of you in life:))))))
Post # 8
The things that everyone has suggested are awesome. It would be so easy to do all those things, but I live literally an hour from even the nearest walmart. Its not an ideal place for a 20-something needing stimulation. The nearest public theater is two hours away, and people around here are too poor to own horses. I know I sound like a total whiner. I can’t reasonably afford to do those things or I’d have done them already. I know that I have things to look forward to, but they feel to distant that they aren’t “real” yet.
Post # 9
Maybe you could think about the things you can do on your own to help prepare for those future adventures? Learn a language, maybe of the place you most want to go? Or teach yourself to cook really well, or knit, or write, or something. You could make a list of all the books/plays you’ve put off reading, or films, and read/watch them.
If you already do these things, then maybe something like an online class, so you can still be interacting with others about a topic you enjoy, even if it’s not in person.
Not the same as going out, obviously, but possibly better than nothing.